He's 40 and I'm 28?

Question

I met this guy who's 40 has 2 kids 24 & 22 and I'm 28 seperated with no kids. Do you guys think that will work out? or should I not persue it?

Answer 1

Separated does not equal divorced. If you are not out of one relationship why are you considering another. If you are considering this one , then I would guess rebound. So go ahead if you will get paid for "it". If you give it away, you will get nothing back - no relationship - no home - no support. The man must pay. MUST Hope this helps you make a decision and does not offend as that was not the intention.

Answer 2

There is a chance it will work. If you are mature for 28 and he is a youthful 40. Is he still really active and playful or would he rather watch TV? If he is slowing down now you'll be doomed to boredom in a few years.

I would think twice if his kids are really against it. He has a right to happiness, but will he truly be happy knowing his kids are upset by you? If they are on there own and not at home it would help greatly.

Answer 3

The age gap is not a big one. He's only 12 yrs older. I have a husband who is 8 years older and we have been together for over 20 years so, it probably will work out if you love each other. His kids are independent so it's only up to the two of you if you develop a bond. Give it a go!

Answer 4

It will work out only if both of you are interested in having a relationship with each other and are ready to commit yourself to each. Make sure also that there will be no interferences from your ex's both of you. There is another thing to consider, which is his kids. Do his kids accept your relationship? If yes, you will have no problem either because his kids can be a problem if the guy will listen to them.

Answer 5

Take out pen and paper...draw a line through the middle of the sheet and on each side(respectively) write the pros/cons of this person. If the "pros" out weigh the "cons", there's a good chance for success; if not, you're going to have to work too hard for too long, for very little return. That's the best answer I can give you with the information you've provided...unless you just want him for a "booty call" in which case: ride it till the wheels fall off!!!

Answer 6

One thing you might consider is what you both expect out of life, do you want children? Does he want more? He has already been through that stage of life and may not want to go through that stage again. Make sure you both have the same goals so neither one of you will face disappointment down the road. Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 7

I think you better get legal divorced as separation doesn't amount to divorced.Once you are free then you can have relationship with him and I would advise you to have a friendship with him and thereafter if you find him caring for you and loves you then and then only you can think of sexual relationship with him otherwise be a Good friend to him and get advise on this matter later in your Life.Good Luck to you dear !

Answer 8

My ex wife is 11 years younger. Yes, there are real issues relating to each other due to very different experiences while growing up.

I recommend you find someone within 5 years of your age.

Answer 9

It could work out. The fact that his kids are older might actually be a positive.

Answer 10

Too many people let age be their guide.Its somehow the worlds standard although not accepted everywhere.Be careful,examine yourself and his and your motive .Also his kids are not kids anymore which is a pluss depending on their attitude toward you,but it is YOU and HIM.