ive been dating a guy since a year by now.then he stopped having contact with me.so i thought he dumped me.and i moved on...then after a year again he emails me.and says that he loves me soo much.but i said that i was goin on with someone else.now i dumped my present bf due to reasons.and again i got a mail from the guy whom i have never talked for 6months and says that he is so desperate.he said he cant live without me.he begged me constantly to take him back.then i did.its been a month since v r dating.but for the past 3 weeks he doesnt call me ,see me or even reply to my emails.do u think hes playing withme?or hes busy?should i dump him ?what shud i do?????????
2006-11-23 00:04:50 · 25 answers · asked by sweetestdevil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ever thought about what a man really wants in a woman to date or fall in love with? I'm talking about mature, healthy men here. "They want someone that they WANT"
They want to WANT a woman, to worship her, to please her, to ravish her, and to sweep her off her feet with their physical and emotional presence. And for the woman to be utterly and completely taken with them and what they do. I'm sure you've seen or heard this kind of male fairy tale before. So why don't men just act this way with women if this is what they want?
There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. I know it sounds cliché, but it's true.
Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over
and feel stronger as a man for having done it.
Men deal with this in one of two ways:
1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term
2. They find connection and love by physically and emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way.
A woman helps him choose which it will be with her. Interesting!!The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.
But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens ??
The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man. It's just one simple word “ATTRACTION”
Men want to feel ATTRACTION and they don't want to listen to what a woman tells them is going on and then come to accept and understand how and why they should be in love.No. That's not how men work. Instead, they want to FEEL their desire for a woman inside their whole body, emotionally driving them, and for it to be undeniable and unrelenting.
If you don't make a man FEEL ATTRACTION for you and trigger the emotional desire deep inside him to win you over and be with you for the long term, then there's no amount of talking, sharing,
or SEX that can change his mind. Experiences and situations that will make a man respond to a woman with INTENSE DESIRE and ATTRACTION. And not just in the "empty" physical sense, but instead with more deeply connected feelings.
What's the difference between single women who can't seem to find a relationship with a man and make it work versus women in great relationships who experience love and joy almost everyday?
Is it just "LUCK" that the right guy finally comes along for the latter group? Lots of women hold an UNCONSCIOUS BELIEF about men, relationships and love. And, this belief actually makes their love lives more difficult, more painful and more frustrating. It's completely COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.
So, what is it? The belief is that they would have their PERFECT LOVE LIFE if they could just find THE RIGHT MAN. And that once the right man comes along who is open, loving and mature enough to make it work, everything will fall into place. Then love will just flow, effortlessly. It even sounds true and makes sense, right? Unfortunately, this isn't how it works for 95% of the women who DO meet that great guy.
There's an old saying: "Wherever you go, there you are..." The challenges and issues in our lives have a way of finding us, no matter where we go or who we're with - EVEN if we don't think they're our own issues.
What does this mean to YOU and your love life?
It means that you have a choice to make...
1. You could wait for that 5% chance that the perfect guy will come along and make EVERYTHING easy and effortless. And then you both can live happily ever after and you won't have to worry about all these annoying issues with men and relationships that other women deal with.
Or...
2. You can choose to learn what's actually going on with men 95% of the time...and start to make dating, relationships and love work for you NO MATTER WHAT comes up with a man.
Your Call !! Good Luck>r
2006-11-23 18:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too early to give up... There are times that our love for someone is being tested... I know that it's really hard to think what's happening with him. Why he is not calling or anything? But if you really love him, wait for a while again. Try to give him time. Maybe he has problems in any aspect or what, that you do not know.... Don't dump him too early. You must give him a chance.. Try to call him. Or try to find someone who knows him and ask how he is... There are times that we hate a person because he doesn't care someone's waiting for him.. But are we sure that the reason is that he just forget us? Or is there another serious reason that he doesn't show up.. Try to find out why. Right there and then, you decide what you will do. If to dump him or not...
2006-11-23 00:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rochelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its like he goes for the best, finds none, comes back to make sure that he hasn't lost what he had, satisfies himself that he still had what he had, and then goes for better option, still finds none, still comes back, finds solace and again for a better option.
Your only role here is you are boosting him, that no you are not the worst guy on the earth. There are some even worst, who like you still doesn't madeup your mind what you are looking for. Its like, you find a pebble at a riverbed, picks up, and keep looking for better one, finds another one, compares, have I got the best, if its best dump the previous one, if its not okay carry it on.
Its not what he wants, for he wants the best, it about you. what does you want, beacuse ultimately its your life, for you are the one who is ultimately going to be dumped.
Get up, make up your mind, if you can't get any better, if you are the biggest looser on the face of Earth, then wait till he finds the better one and then finally dumps you, or you take the decision, kick in his guts with you full force and tell that you too are going to find the better one, and that he is not the only guy left in this world. Common you can't keep sitting there, waiting to dumped in the last.
That guys a ****** who thinks friends are good-better-best, for friends are friends, no comparision.
Theres a limit. Theres something selfrespect, have you even lost that. Even a broken down clock shows right time atleast two times a day, and I don't think anybody can go below that.
SO, what are you waiting for.
Buy yourself a new shoe, one with the spikes and use it freely on the backside of your BOYFRIEND.
2006-11-23 04:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by rishi l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart wake up. He is not that into you. He probably had someone else that dump him and then he came back to you. Right now the other person probably ask him to come back and then he dumps you. He is not that into you. If he was he would not do that. He is using you and keeping you as a puppy and you fell for because you dump the guy that probably likes you. MOVE ON.
2006-11-23 03:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can get pregnant. If you have sex without a condom, of course you can, especially as he ejaculated. Take the morning after pill, any side effects it may cause would be a hell of a lot easier to deal with than pregnancy, labor, birth and a life time looking after a child. Get on birth control, use condoms - do everything you possibly can to prevent yourself getting pregnant, at least until you learn to spell nd stp tlkin lyk dis.
2016-05-22 22:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens.....the thing is guys really dont realise the importance of a gal till she decides to leave him.....so carry on with it......they r always like this.u keep sendin mails and offlines and they just reply u back wid a "hi"or "how r u?".i feel most of the time they r confused whether to express their feelin for a gal or not.....so as he seems to be desperate give him a chance and dont take quick decisions......and tell him frankly that u dont like when he doesnt reply back to u......if he likes u he ll surely "try" to make an effort.and if at some point u feel that u no more can stand all this then wat i suggest is dump him.....
2006-11-23 00:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by glam g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are someone who is very convivenient to him, in order for a relationship to last comminucation has to be present at all times, in my oppinion i don't think you should have never went back to him, for him it took a year for him to realize what he did, so 3 weeks for him is nothing. Someone like that needs to be told how he should treat people. You should tell him what you expect from him and if he is not willing to change than you need to tell him that you need someone who will understand you and is willing to commit to you a 100 %. Good luck.
2006-11-23 15:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wanted to enjoy ur body. and he did by pleasing u. What is ur age and where do u belong from? It all depends on ur culture, the way u r brought up, ur society.
Tell me if there is no one around u..if u r in the situation...and only u have to take decission...what would u do? should not think of extreme steps..okey?
Enough is enough..with the experience, take proper steps in future where u can never be deceived.
2006-11-23 00:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him. No point staying with a person that doesn't care about you. When he felt lonely, then only approaching you. One word to describe this kind of species is - selfish
Good luck to you
2006-11-23 00:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sonata 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont attemp to understand or to predict what happens. just see the fact, take time, and make decisions. if they dont appreciate you, then not to invest time caring about them or about what happens...its not healthy relationship anymore when u always get to the side and have all the questions unreplied or unlikely to be solved....if they care, they stop wasting time for ay reason, but they will make every reason to love u back, in ways that is possible for you to see and perceive....thanks
2006-11-23 00:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by K L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dump him and find some one who wants to be with you all the time and can't live without you, thats real love.
2006-11-23 00:07:56 · answer #11 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋