me and my girlfriend split up 2 months ago and recently i asked her if we could try again - to which she said yes so we are back together at the moment. the break up was predominantly my fault (not the usual stuff like infidelity though) and i have acknowledged this. recently she went out on a night out with her friends and met this guy. she didnt tell me about this, someone else told me that she met him and she gave him her number. i confronted her about this and she said that she had and had swapped emails - she accused me of looking at her phone which made me wonder what was on it .spoke to my counsellor about how it made me feel insecure and threatened at an early stage of our reconciliation and i decided to ask her some questions about this bloke she had met. i thought the questions were innocent like - are you going to meet him? can i come along if youre just friends? her reaction was to get upset and become defensive. should i be worried or should i just let it go?
2006-11-22 00:41:00 · 11 answers · asked by rm1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did kiss him, she finally admitted it!
2006-11-23 21:22:01 · update #1
She lied to me repeatedly and i finally caught her out. She then admitted it to me. The worst thing about all of this is that i questioned myself over it and felt bad for feeling insecure and she played on that a lot. We are trying again at the moment, but even though i am relieved its not my fault and that im not going mad i feel hurt and betrayed that she would a) do this in the first place and b) lie about it 3 times to me before she finally admitted it. I love her so much, but i hurt a lot as well.
2006-11-23 21:23:40 · update #2
I would be worried. She is not being forthright with you. Don't doubt yourself, just tell her that there is no point you staying together if she is actually considering someone else. That simple. Better walk away with your dignity than having to discover her cheating on you later on.
2006-11-22 00:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her reaction is telling you that more is going on. On the other hand she could be annoyed because you might be possessive and extremely jealous. In that case the relationship will never work out. But, if you're not then I'd say she is hiding something. I have many male friends. More than female friends. I also have a wonderful trusting boyfriend. He believes and trusts me 100%. However, I don't keep my friends separate from him. He knows all of them. If I were to keep a "friend" relationship with another man and keep it "secret" from my boyfriend ... you better believe it is for a reason. Not knowing the two of you, I hesitate to say this but, I really think you just need to move on. You're not trusting her as it is. It can only get worse. Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-22 00:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what your girlfriend is thinking. But we both know the guy is just playing the friend angle. Nothing you can do about it. Anything you say or do is just going to make you look insecure and weak.
The only way to play this is to adopt a zero tolerance policy for cheating and then live as if you just know that no one would ever consider cheating on you. Don't discuss, don't snoop. If it happens it happens and you immediately dump her and move on.
2006-11-22 01:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your issues were before, but if trust was one of them, let it go. I don't believe she would have gotten back together with you under any circumstances if she was interested in another guy. Yes women and men can be just friends. I had as many guy friends in high school as I had girl friends. And no I'm not ugly . Sometimes women can talk to another guy better just like men can sometimes relate to women better. Let it go funless something comes up for you to question.
2006-11-22 00:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way you should be protective and want to know all of this.. but if she says he is just a friend you should also trust her. If you start getting the feeling that they arent just friends then confront her with your feelings
2006-11-22 00:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a girl can be just friends with another man its just u ur paranoyed u need to trust her especially if uve only just got bk together u might push her bk again
2006-11-22 00:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by sammlwrd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude she is keeping her options open otherwise she would not have given her digits hate to say it but it seems like your a it'll do for now guy so remember she's not the only girl there will be others trust me move on
2006-11-22 00:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by tommy e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a lot of guys friends when i met my husband and he thought like you and i would let him come along with me and he met my guy friends and now they are friends. dont worry about it it is ok for people to have friends of the opposite sex
2006-11-22 00:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, lose the zore and get a new one
2006-11-22 00:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Quinton S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! learn your lesson from soap operas
2006-11-22 00:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Igobeg O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋