My sister-in-law was admitted to the hospital for pneumonia. She said her primary care doctor told her she had cancer in her neck and all over her chest. I thought she had taken the story and blown it up. Now I don't think so. The situation looks so grim and I'm sad and feel so guilty for the things I thought. She has never been a very happy person and alway so stressed. Her daughter just had a baby girl today. I know how much she wanted to be there, but she is still in the hospital. They did a lung biopsy this morning. The cancer is in her lymph nodes, but it's not lymphoma and they are tryng to find out where it start from. It sounds like to me that it's not anything that they can cure or that will be in remission for long. I'm I wrong?
2006-11-21 14:18:21 · 9 answers · asked by michele_fct 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Respiratory Diseases
Stop feeling guilty and figure out how you can be supportive. Most likely you are right she does not have long.
Go take photos of the baby. Visit the daughter for her. Take her food . SEe if you can get her house cleaned up for her to come home to. I know form experience that after a hospial stay it is great to ocm ehome to a neat house. You are exhausted and it really helps if you don't feel lik you have to get right up and get to work.
Take ehr treast hospitla food sucks. Let her talk about her illness and her pain. and so on!
2006-11-21 14:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by raredawn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the cancer did not start in the Lymph Nodes it would be considered a secondary or metastatic cancer. Meaning, it started somewhere else in the body and spread to her lymph nodes. Depending on what stage her cancer is, I would imagine that treatment could be given. At this point it's vital that she get treatment since the cancer is now in her Lymph. The Lymph will carry/spread the cancer to other parts of her body very quickly if not treated.
2006-11-21 14:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by D~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to say how Sorry I feel about your sister-in-law. But there is some hope. Not all cancers are are as evasive and severe as it is first scoped out to be. My Mothere in-law had lung cancer and had one entire lung removed, not long after, they located metz in her brain. Being treated for both, chemo and radiation. She is a survivor thus far, this ordeal began 5 years ago at the young age of 72, since then she's been well ,as to the exception of a broken hip, and then replaced 2 months ago. She's still going, there is still hope, never give up, we nearly did. So with a little wish and a prayer I'll send both to you and your sister inlaw, Good luck, and God bless.
2006-11-21 14:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladyvincicode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when the cancer is in the lymph nodes it is very hard to treat. As long as she didn't know what you were thinking, don't tell her. Help her in some other way to make up for your thoughts.
2006-11-22 04:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear this. The cancer has spread. I think that right now the best thing is for you and family to be there for her. There is a chance that they can start chemo and radiation. She may even need a bone marrow transplant.
2006-11-21 14:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Staci R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 07:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound promising. Don't feel guilty - her actions in he past led you to believe she was faking. You had the facts and came up with the most logical conclusion.
Just forget the past and be there for her and the rest of your family. I'm so sorry you and your family have to deal with this but what you do tomorrow will erase any negative feelings you had in the past.
2006-11-21 14:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilt is a slippery little eel that serves no purpose. if she has exaggerated in the past, she may have cried wolf a few times too many. just move past the guilt and offer to stay with her, and help any way you can. your love is all that is important right now, and give it freely.
2006-11-21 14:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sadly since the cancer has spread so much i really don't think she'll make it. maybe you should go talk to her about what you thought before it's too late. sorry for your lost.
2006-11-21 14:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by gets flamed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋