She always puts me down, never appreciates what I do, and I was a very good kid and never did nothing bad and was a grade a student, very respectful and caring and the way she talks to me I feel like she never wanted to have me.... for the last 15 years everyday she argues with me about something ... and picks on me for no reason... I can't do anything about it... she doesn't even say good morning anymore... she just wakes up and starts bitching and she's making me unhappy and depressed... what should I do?
2006-11-19 22:23:49 · 17 answers · asked by vegas_b0y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Buy her a dog!
2006-11-19 22:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
well believe it or not you can do nothing about her attitude but you also can't let her ways cause you to ruin your life,you seem smart enough to know that you are a good girl and you are that way because you choose to be so continue to be who you are and don't let her ways be a reason or excuse for you to ruin your life.You may never please her because she has issues of her own that don't have any thing to do with you although you are bearing the pressure of it.keep your head up and make a better life for your self,you sound very sensible to me.one day you will be a mother and you will remember all these feelings and they will make you a better mother and a more loving mother so some good will come from this situation if you continue with your good choices.good luck.
2006-11-20 01:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound matured and reasonable and it is a pity your mom doesn't appreciate that. Please be informed that not only youngsters can have problems and be problematic to their parents. Parents too can have problems( for reasons best known to themselves). Some parents vent their anger and frustration on their children. This is of course very unfair, but it does happen. Your parents may have problems between them which you don't know. There may be something(nothing to do with you) which secretly bothers her. The situation is unfair and hard on you, but if you can be patient, continue on as a good child you are - who knows, you may even "rescue" your mom from slipping deeper into her depression. If you can help it, please don't aggravate the situation by fighting back(which of course you have the right to). Things are already bad enough even when you are keeping your cool.
2006-11-19 22:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 04:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her down and find out what is wrong with her. I don't think that it's got anything to do with you because you obviously haven't given her a reason to be upset with you. By the sounds of things she should be proud of you. However I think that she is worried about something and because you are around you are an easy target and due to this you are feeling her range.
What you should do is try talking to her but if she doesn't want to talk to you about things, then just don't talk to her. If she says anything just look at her, but don't say anything it will be hard because she's your mum. But she is just not being fair to you
2006-11-19 22:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First make sure you are doin everything in your power to do the right thing, then if she's still goin at you, just say Look you are really coming down hard on me lately, im trying to do the right thing and stuff, but you dont seem to be letting up. Make sure you let her know how she is making you feel. Maybe she is going through something right now. I left home when i was 15 because i couldn't get on with my mum, now ive been living independantly for almost 4 years, and me and my mum get on great.
2006-11-19 22:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
first of all tell her how you feel and how she is making feel that way. as a mother, she is suppose to encourage you not discourage you. if she continues to do what she is doing, then try and move out. if you are way under age, then do really good in school and get scholarships to go to college. go to a college far away from her, and live your life and do what you want to do. just ignore her. she must be miserable and want you to be miserable with her. i was in the same situation too but it wasn't my mother; it was my guardian. she really talked me down all the time but to be honest, for what ever reason, it never got me down. i excelled not only in my academics but also in athletics. so know that you are someone dispite what your mean mother may say.
2006-11-19 22:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe your mother made bad mistakes when she was around your age and wants to keep you headed on the right path. My mother used to do this to me when I was living with her and it was frustrating because I was just like you. I think she wants to see you succeed and end up better than she did.
I think you need to ask your mother why she says these things in a private setting and have a personal conversation with her finding out who she was and what she went through.
2006-11-19 23:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk to her about it. Let her know your feelings and tell her how much it would mean to you if she felt proud of you and expressed that. Maybe if she knows how much negativity she is giving you, she may stop. If not, then you should go out of your way to show her how you would like her to behave. Sometimes the children have to teach the parents.
2006-11-19 22:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get over it.I feel bad for you though.Well I love my mom,but if it makes you feel better I have a ***** for a sister still love her,and I think just about everyone on my dad's side of the family are crazy lunatics,although I haven't met all of them.
2006-11-19 22:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
first and MOST important: it is not about you. you said you were a good kid and i believe you are right, its her problems and issues and she may never change. Do your best to learn tolerance but dont be her doormat.
Good luck and remember she will always love you in her muddled way.
2006-11-19 23:12:53 · answer #11 · answered by claire o 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋