What's the point of marriage? Staying together out of love means a whole lot more.?

Question

What's the point of a meaningless piece of paper? does marriage *prove* love or something? How can some archaic ritual have any bearings on how 2 people feel about each other?

If I was fed the line "Marry me if you love me" It would tear my heart in half, as the person is bringing my love into question. And starts me pondering how they really feel about me.

You either love someone or you don't. *marriage* has no effect on this facet.

I don't believe in god, so "blessed union" goes out the door for me.

Again, I don't believe in god. So any god involvement here means nothing to me.

Answer 1

I agree, I think marriage complicates things too much.

And, I believe that if for some reason the relationship doesn't work out, the two people should be able to walk away without any messy divorce proceedings.

Answer 2

Ok so you knew he was a flirter when you got with him, right? That's how he got with you. know I would say he wants his cake and eat it too, one minute he's married and one minute he's not. Well i tell you he loves you, but is he in the marriage for convince, financially,shelter,the kids, what because doesn't seems like he's in it for the love of you or the marriage, just comfort maybe not content, if he was he would appreciate the family.Why would another woman continue to text a man married or in a relationship everyday not acceptable, the lady has no respect for herself nor does your husband has any respect for his self or family he's out of line and a real man will step up and put her azz in check, that's why you know he's playing games. You said you can have whatever you want eventually not, this ain't Burger King have it your way, he's pr oven that clearly. Oh you mean materialistic, you need to know your not for sale.Money can't buy love so if that's all he got then he ain't good nothing much for you. Now only you can figure out if you can live this life with this non appreciative man you have to lay in the bed with every night.You know that trust is number one in a marriage and if ain't no trust what do you have. Are you going to be married because of the kids living that life can be unhealthy and hazardous to the soul. Blind in love Good luck

Answer 3

I think you said it best. A marriage ceremony somehow works for the simple purpose alone of providing physical proof of the authentic love and dedication between two people to THE REST OF THE WORLD. That ring and darned certificate do nothing but make it legal to the governement, divide up assests (which is really awkward). I always wonder if I love for 6 years and live unmarried with someone and some other couple who has been together for 6 months then gets married. Who is more official?

Marriage cannot be physical it has to be a state of mind between the two people. They have to feel a 'marriage' in each other heart and soul and all that blah blah. The paper and lavish ceremonies really signifies nothing.

Answer 4

Marriage is a commitment between two people to be one union.When a man and a woman commit to loving the other they marry to seal that commitment. I agree that the piece of paper doesn't mean that it will be happily ever after.Commitment is what bonds the couple together. And love is what nurtures the commitment. Marriage to me is a showing of respect and honor for your mate The ring is a symbol of the love you share,it has no beginning,no ending,a continuous circle. It doesn't mean one "owns" the other.There's a difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

Menka.. the things you stated that you think married people should go on dates with others and marriage being like a jail. If people want the freedom to date and being married makes them feel like they are in jail.Then those people shouldn't be married at all to anyone Those are the very reasons marriages don't work,it's lack of commitment. If you love someone you don't want to be with anyone else.

Answer 5

Like love, marriage is an institution.. It has been discovered by different nations that live apart which never contacted each other to put tow who are in love with each other in place where they both could make a family. But that will only happen if they announce that bond and celebrated it. As much as a lot of people would like to look at marriage as a test of love or an obligation by a traditional society. It is in the human nature to tie with a person for the rest of your natural life, and what you see as a certificate is actually what keeps the couple's ties stronger for better or worst…

Answer 6

It means you love and trust someone enough to promise to be with them until the end of time. It makes your children legitimate. No it's not the reason you stay with them, but it is a testament to the world of your love. It also protects your interests financially, it gives your beloved legal standing in court and to make medical decisions for you. I don't think many people stay because of a piece of paper, they stay out of love and that speaks volumes if you decide to make it legal or not. I wouldn't want someone to beg me to marry them either. Marriage isn't something you do to prove your love to someone.

Answer 7

I agree with you. marriage and love don't go together,,,,,I think the reason is lack of freedom, living for long time with same partner, though he/she is a wonderful person, makes life a bit boring.......If both of them are given a bit of freedom and allowed to go out with person of their choice , just on date etc.....and come back home and welcomed by husband or wife with smiling face.....will change the meaning of marriage which other wise is like a jail. But the society in which we are living has made some rules for us and we are forced to stay inside these rules. It will take lot of understanding and education and maturity for people to understand this. It is not easy to change rules and regulations set by our ancestors.

Answer 8

Well, there could have been something in your question, to which one could give an answer had you believed in God (and in what is written in the Bible about marriage). but since you don't believe in God, then the whole point in marriage is that others do it.

Answer 9

Ahh, baby, marriage is a gift from God! When the world was brand new, the Creator looked upon man and saw that each animal had its like, but man was alone. So our God, made Adam to sleep, and took from his own body, the makings of his perfect mate. Man was created for a relationship with God, and Woman was created for a relationship with them both. There is a hierarchy to our relationships. People get them out of priority, and wonder why they are unhappy. A marriage is a concrete union of two souls, traveling the path of life united, blessed, and capable of bringing all things under subjection, Can you dig that? But God must be the center...All things are possible for a man and woman, led by the spirit of God. It is an adventure, it is a pleasure, (for the marriage bed is sacred...Get your freak on), it is an honor and privilege...Praise God, for truly he is Good!

Answer 10

well everyone has different opinions about marriage, if u don't like marriage thats upto u, not everyones the same. but marriage is a way to show someone the ultimate commitment to one another.