I personally don't approve. But I was just curious as to what everybody else thought about it.
2006-11-19 22:02:14 · 35 answers · asked by Reaper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about the people who are used for one night stands? I made this mistake a little while before I met my current boyfriend. We had met at a local family club, in the pool/bar area. I didnt know how to play pool, but was giving it a go with my mum and her partner at the time. I had just split from my (soon to be ex) husband. He and his friend came over and in time he was teaching me how to play. We started talking, he knew my situation and he told me he was not long out of a relationship himself. Anyway we all decided to meet the next night (me, mum, her partner, him and his friend) to play pool. That night ended in a kiss and touchy/feely stuff, I refused to do anything else. Anyway, as far as he knew I was going back into the area that I was on a break from for a year or so, till I got the divorce done and stuff, but circumstances changed and I ended up moving back into the area. He had agreed to call me, which he had try to do, but I missed his call. It was then 3 weeks before I sopke to him again, and we arranged to meet. This was the dreaded night. He had said he was tired of playing around trying to find someone who is always that little better, said he really liked me, told me he wanted to be a father in the future and everything. So I did it. He went and didnt contact, after saying he would that weekend, for over 4 weeks, and took a little souvenier of our night with him!!!!! I was sooo mad!!!! Then the calls came in thick and fast, and basically it was only ever when he was on leave or wasnt getting drunk or on holiday that he contacted me. I ignored all the calls/texts. And here I am now, with my brilliant boyfriend, who does know about this situation, getting a new life. He's now moved in and we have big plans for the future. So what Im saying is that sometimes its not intended as a one night stand by both people, but if thats all that one of them wants, thats all that happens. Sad, but true! been there, done that and got the 'I was a fool' T-shirt aswell. lol
2006-11-19 23:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the person. I, for one do not condone it for obvious reasons. Although, others seem to be too self-absorbed that they would opt for instant gratification. You see, without "working" on a probable relationship w/ a person only makes it what it is.....shallow,futile,& temporary. This kind of behavior has no positive effects for both. The person might think they just put one over the other, but the fact is they're really hurting themselves. It makes them numb to what's real. And no one in their right mind would want to be associated with a person who is made of tupperware; because they know that whatever kind of relationship transpires from it, will never last plus the person will always put him/his welfare first! Would you trust your life to a person like this? I think not! So much for future plans with a person like this; cuz it just got flushed down the toilet.
2006-11-19 22:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I continue on a theme. If an adult person has a one night stand, that is their business and no-one else's. Period. I have had several and will probably have several more. The fact is, rarely do I walk away with any kind of contentment. Usually, it is a disaster, but I am free to find my own mistakes.
2006-11-19 22:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by breakenschidt 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont approve either!!!
but i wouldnt go up to people and say thats wrong you shouldnt do that.
Thats whats great about opinions!!! EVERYONE HAS ONE! EVEN IF YOU DONT AGREE!! so you (the people who do like one night stands) can give me a thumbs down all you like, just coz you dont agree with my answer. personally i think its pathetic!!
just coz you dont like what i write you give me a thumbs down!
thought this site was to be about how people answer things. people have so many different dicisions, but..if one person dont like hearing it,..well! thumbs down!
you are all pathetic little children the people that actually do this!!
2006-11-19 22:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i was younger i did have a one night stand and i have regretted it ever since....i was blazing drunk at the time, (yeah i know, blame the booze) but that was the case unfortunately...i did not have my bearings, had no clue what i was doing but the next morning, i felt so ashamed that i just woke and left before he woke up...never saw this person again....don't even wanna go there, happened once, never again
2006-11-19 22:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not my kind of thing to hook up with some random for a one nighter. I have, however, had one nighters with friends, no strings attached, it was after a break up and it was the best ego boost ever, until the guy wants more from you and its just not the right time for that.
2006-11-19 22:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One night stands are great if both parties are aware that's whats going on
2006-11-20 00:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by robert x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its all up to the person i mean yes i dont think 1 night stands are good but whats to say that you meet someone and things get crazy then its all good
2006-11-19 22:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by shasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with them. If you have been in a long relationship wiv sum1 and broke up, sometimes you just wanna be single but u still need pleasuring.
2006-11-19 22:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by claire d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think badly of them if you don't want a relationship I don't see the harm if the other person is on the same wavelength.
2006-11-19 23:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋