I have been out of a friends with benefits relationship for 3 months now and I feel like I am just starting to get over it and think it was a good decision. I am 24 she is 35 with 3 kids. She also claims to suffer from bipolar disorder but many people at work claim she is attention seeking. With had a friends with benefits relationship for 1 year until she told me she was sleeping with other guys and I got jealous and I had more feelings for her....actually love feelings. I told her this but she said she was in love with a guy who had a girlfriend.
I have been through a period of thinking these past few months, "she was so lovely and kind". But now I am beginning to see how she hurt me and it was a dangerous situation.
The thing is I feel a bit guilty still for leaving her as I wanted to take care of her and see she was ok and we got on well as friends but feel selfish that I couldn't put the jealousy on the backburner.
Was it a good choice do you think?
2006-11-19 21:39:54 · 10 answers · asked by pog b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did absolutely the right thing to leave that so-called "relationship." The only bad decision you've made is to question yourself as to whether leaving was right or wrong.
2006-11-19 21:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by IceTrojan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are a very compassionate person. That is a good thing but not when your needs go un-attended, as they apparently have been.
Try as we might we cannot save someone, they must do it for themselves. You can be supportive but in this case there are so many un-desirable factors.
Find someone with less issues OR grow used to the constant upheaval in the relationship, which is very draining.
Good luck.
Peace.
2006-11-19 21:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 04:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give to you is to move on. You made the right decision, and now the hard part is to simply stick to it. Try to view this situation from the perspective of someone that you respect and are close to. Would this girl meet their approval if they knew all the details? The best ways to get over and old flame in my experience are: to cut off all contact, to keep busy, and to find someone new.
2006-11-19 23:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by jeremy f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a good call really...you say you developed more than friends feelings for her & she didnt feel them back?? Well then FOR SURE the best thing to do is get out!!! All your doing by staying is fueling your feelings in hopes that you will get something out of it that isnt going to happen hence emotinally hurting yourself...and as far as feeling guilty for not being able to out the stronger feelings on the back burner???HA!!! dont be niaive sweetie, she was getting what she wanted out of the realtionship & not caring as to what YOU wanted out of it, so she is the one who ought to be feeling guilty not you! You made a smart choice dont go back on it youll regret it
2006-11-19 21:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by *♥* ♥* FaeGoddess*♥*♥* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has 3 children, she needs a good male model for them and a good provider. u re not good for that role, so i suggest u stop thinking about her, she will never be in love with u. she needs mature man. and anyway, a woman with 3 kids and u re only 24 . with what place re u usually thinking? don't u have any parents to fix your brains?
2006-11-19 21:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good call. Too much baggage.
2006-11-19 21:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you made a good decision, you don't need baggage at your age
2006-11-19 21:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most definately the right thing for u to do.
2006-11-19 21:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋