My girlfriend and I work at the same place and she flirts and treats everyone else better than she has ever treated me. I get very upset over it and then I am being unreasonable when I ask her why.
2006-11-19 21:32:02 · 15 answers · asked by Carpenter0273 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably one of the persons who act most of the time to show that they are better than they really are. With you she does not have to do that, she is just being herself because she knows you already have feelings for her and she does not have to prove anything to you.
2006-11-19 21:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship and you deserve better. Sit down and talk to her about it face to face. Tell her that you feel she is treating everyone else better than she treats you and that she flirts with others but your relationship has lost that playful flirting and you miss it. Tell her things need to change and you want to work together to put the fun back in the relationship and that both of you can do a better job of treating eachother. If she continues to think your being unreasonable then she doesn't get it and won't change.
2006-11-19 21:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Guinness Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a girl thing. She's doing that to get a reaction out of you. When you react, she recognizes you're uncomfortable with her actions and senses that you still care for her and want to be her special guy. It's a way of checking on your feelings for her, and easing her insecurities that you might be losing interest in her.
To bring that to an end, stop acting like it bothers you. She'll then get nervous at the thought that you might not care for her as much anymore, and ask you why you've stopped getting upset.
That's when you walk up to her, smile, cup your hands around her cheeks (facial), and utter the words "Wouldn't it be unreasonable of me to do that?"
That's when she should hug you, say touche', and drag your butt into the bedroom for the best lay of your life.
No guarantees, but I think that if you try it, you'll like it.
2006-11-19 21:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that you are being unreasonable in wanting her to treat you with the same level of respect and consideration that she is showing others.
I feel that flirting is acceptable as long as it is just that. As soon as this transcends into something more personal then that subject needs addressing but as long as it is just idle and friendly banter you should treat it light-heartedly.
As for treating others better than you, it is difficult to comment without knowing more of the facts but I'd say that should you draw her attention to how it feels by reciprocating, maybe she will see for herself just how damaging being taken for granted can be.
(Please don't be drawn into the trap of playing games as this seldom helps anyone but highlighting your issue by turning the tables slightly should obtain the desired result)
2006-11-19 21:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is openly cheating on you and you have documented proof of it then there is no reason why you should let the kids be a reason for not divorcing. If you have proof of his actions the court will award you a very nice settlement from your husband and you will be able to keep the kids. The kids will most likely be better off in a happy 1 parent home rather than a 2 parent home where you are miserable and your husband is cheating.
2016-03-29 02:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not.
Why dont you pay her back in the same coin.
Just flirt with everyone and treat them better than you treat her . I'm sure she will get the message .;)
2006-11-19 21:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be more caring to other people and doesn't value you as much. If she is like this, you shouldn't be with someone who treats other people better than you. Thats like a guy who treats all his friends great, treats his girlfriend like a third wheel.
2006-11-19 21:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not being unreasonable. You've a right to have respect from your girlfriend and it sounds like she doesn't. Ask yourself why you're still with her if she continues to hurt you? You're better than that. Good luck!
2006-11-19 21:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Aine14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an ultimatum. If she continues doing so then tell her it's over. She doesn't deserve to be your girlfriend.
2006-11-19 21:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by lanisoderberg69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to give yourself some respect. dump her. if she treats you like that then you are NOT her bf. you don't have to be a love doctor to know that.
2006-11-19 21:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋