i don't know if i am being unreasonable or what. whenever my boyfriend does not come to see me and my daughter for a more than 2 days, even though we talk on the phone everyday, i feel like he has abondoned us and feel unloved. i tell him how i feel every time and we talk about it. should i feel like this or i am wrong.
note: i live alone
2006-11-19 21:30:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you love him and you miss him, i wish i had what you have, i need some love too but you are asking for his attention all the time and he still needs his own time too, i think he loves you.
2006-11-19 21:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need more life of your own. if he has to hear this every time he gets busy for a couple of days or just needs some breathing room then chances are he will run away as fast as he can. i know i would. u cant wrap your life around someone else that way. get a hobby or join a bowling league, just do something and give him a little space. if he took off a couple of days when you are married to him then i could see u being upset but u didn't say u were married or living together.
2006-11-20 05:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Others on here have offered good advice, as harsh as it may sound. I have not been in exactly your situation but in a very similar one an here are some things you should think about.
Do you have issues with abandonment?
If your daughter is preschool age, take her to local mothers groups so you both interact. Or if she is at school, get a part time job or something to get you out of the house.
Consider seeing a counsellor.
If you get your own life sorted, it would actaully make your boyfriend more interested in you, I think.
2006-11-20 06:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you talk about this every time you see each other...oh my god...
no wonder he stays away,
you want to see him more but when you do see him you moan at him about not seeing him...your pushing him away!!
Have you tried talking your feelings through with someone else, a friend?
Have you looked at why you feel this way..ie: trust?
And if you have a child why don't you live together?
maybe you should suggest moving in together on a trial period?
It sounds as if the problem lays with you, maybe a past experience is making you feel like this...in which case you could speak to a relationship counsellor..?
Good Luck
2006-11-20 05:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by sphinxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..yoiu deserve better than this..he is not behaving like a father or a boyfriend..he wants to have his cake and eat it.Tell him that this is not a relationship..your poor daughter will be confused in a few years.You need to withdraw tbhis boyfriend idea and tell him to meet you at the weekends for a coffe and a chat somewhere..not in your home..you are "busy"in the week and have other things to do...now is the timne to act..do not "TALK"..act today and build up a life of your own..thi s is not a relationship.
2006-11-20 05:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by janine s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"it is better to give than to recieved" your boyfriend might really love you that much, but it doesnt mean that whenever he doesnt showed up, he loves you less. Be happy because your heart is overflowing with love for him, give it away freely and it will come back to you a hundred times, dont expect in return for that is the true meaning of love " sacrifice"
But dont forget to share your love and affection to your daughter,
instead of thinking that he has abandoned you divert your attention to your little angel... so she may benefit from your unending love for her. Think positive. And in case that you will lose him in the end, dont worry too much for there are lots of fishes in the ocean....besides youve got the most precious gift of your life..... your "DAUGHTER".
2006-11-20 05:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by NOSREME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get more self esteem and self confidence because it sounds like you a bit needy. Join a club or something for single mothers or go to the gym or something that gives you life outside the home.
2006-11-20 05:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are acting very needy and pathetic, and you should be happy that he is so patient. Get a life outside of your relationship with him so you don't have to spend your every waking moment sitting there waiting for him to walk through the door.
2006-11-20 05:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not lacking attention. You get 100% of you daughters attention and she should get 100% of yours. You're being insecure about your boyfriend. Don't worry about him, worry about your daughter. Your responsibilities as a mother far outweigh you position as a girlfriend.
2006-11-20 05:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by JayJay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation became as you didn't marry. If you have married then that wouldn't have happened. Marriage is a natural, moral, ethical and decent way, where both sides have certain responsibilities and they are obliged to do that by rules, regulations, and socio customs.
2006-11-20 05:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel that way because you're starting to feel down and getting depress like me. Don't loose hope and be patient. Let them miss you once in a while.
2006-11-20 05:36:23 · answer #11 · answered by teylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋