As we all know that there are some folks that just hate fat people. But I know that there are people out there that actually would rather be with us then most girls. Are dudes scared that they will get burned by their friends cause he is dating a big gal or he would much rather be with a skinny girl that could treat him wrong. Us big gals have great personalities, great hearts, loves with our whole hearts, and some of us are actually freaky under the sheets. So my question is should a big gal be as happy with someone that loves her or be alone for the rest of her life.
2006-11-19 20:44:57 · 19 answers · asked by Autumn L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people in this world today, feel that being a big Guy or Gal is ugly. But they are just basing there judgments on the portrayals of the media. Most of the models of this world are so superficial. Most of them have had work done on their bodies, and are either anorexic, or bole-mic. Men who want women like this, are only asking for trouble. And visa versa. Being different in size and shape makes the world not boring or ugly, but beautiful. The inner person is what makes the individual, not the outward appearance. Looks are a plus I always say, But they do fade in time. So will the excitement of the relationship. Most of these so called skinny women, are high maintenance. They want to have everything and anything that will keep them happy, and staying young looking. Reason being is, they know if the real person inside of them comes out, the guy will leave them. Men who really want to be happy should marry a good women, no matter the size. The big women of this world know how to treat a man, and they deserve respect. There are so many sad stories on yahoo answers about heart break. If we all just change our views of people, we could eventually find happiness. With the right person, even a big Guy or Gal. Don't hate people because of what they look like. I am glad God judges us by our heart condition, not our looks. Many who have a black heart, and hate Big people, they will not fool God. They will answer for all there deeds. But those of you out there who are good people, who are not judging others based on the looks. Good Job, you deserve to be praised.
To the asker of this question, you go girl. I'm sure you will find love some day. Don't give up!!!!! You have a right to be with any one you love, and want. Please don't let any one tell you different.
2006-11-19 21:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Big girls of course have every right to happiness that thin girls have. That's now however how the world works. The world is not a fair and anything that looks 'abnormal' to the people who set out the criteria of normality...e.g. an artifical leg, someone in a wheelchair, conjoined twins, retarded people etc. is an object of ridicule. Men are very competitive with each other and having a girl that they can show off to other men (no matter how wrong) is what they do. There are few people who will accept fat girls for what they are...loving individuals who just want to be treated fairly. So the best way really is to lose weight, as harsh as that sounds, but not only will you be more attractive, your health will improve, sex becomes better because you don't get that tired and you'll feel less conscious about yourself. Eat right, get some exercise and you could shed those extra pounds.
2006-11-20 04:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Fat people need love too. And to stop being so fat. Just kidding. Seriously for me, I'm with the biggest girl I've every been with right now. She's 5'9" 150. Shes not fat, she's sturdy. But it gets to me a bit. When she sit on the edge of the bed topless, the roll around her belly is the only thing I can focus on. Dudes like thin gals because a fit body shows they care about appearance. Not that larger people don't and I realize a lot of its genetic, but there are sacrifices people can and do make to be in shape. Sacrifices most large people aren't willing to make. So in some people it begs the question, what else aren't they willing to sacrifice for?...Love maybe? Now my best friend in the world is fat. And shes a sweet heart. I've seen her nude, and with all due respect, no thank you. Its just a personal preference thing. You should never have to or even want to be alone however, and you should just be happy with who you are.
2006-11-20 04:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by espactor 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If a guy is worried about what his friends think, then that's not a guy you want to be with...I have a sister, she is a big girl, that girl gets more dates than i do, or did, I'm bigger now but I'm also married...If you notice, you will see more big girls are married and the skinny ones are single forever, heck i was skinny till i was 40, then i grew a muffin top and i couldn't get dates till i grew a little...So hang in there, there is a guy out there for you...
2006-11-20 05:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all people regardless of there size have the right to develop a relationship its our social envirment that has put the taboos on a lot of different areas people think oh i want to date the pretiest skinny girl around but they tend to be not all there cracked up to be a person changes every day of there lives so if you apply yourself to developing different sources for meeting people you will the the right person remmeber 99 percent of the world is not like tom cruise and catie holmes the majority of the people in the world are average people fat, skinny, not picture perfect look around your town look at the people that are the homeowners people that live in your town they are not all wildy pretty but have found a partner that they are happy with you can to.
2006-11-20 05:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by seattle1961a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am a pretty petite myself, at 5'5 and 115 pounds, so, clearly I am not a big girl, however...
I have to tell you, that if I ever heard someone say that a larger woman did not deserve to be loved or shouldn't be allowed to find a person and be in love, I would punch them in the teeth, because that is just RIDICULOUS.
You are absolutely entitled to find love with someone, however, that someone should not be ENTITLED to being with you. By that, I mean, make sure you are with someone worthy- someone who does not take you for granted. If a guy doesn't want to date you because he's worried of what his friends will think, that person is not worthy of you by a long shot.
I am sure you are a beautiful (inside & out) and good-hearted person, and I hope you find someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve!
2006-11-20 04:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by GeorgiaDawgsGirl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Big gals have every right to the same love and happiness as any other woman does!!! I am a big girl, and I know a lot of guys who do prefer a big gal to a stick, and more than that, we big gals are usually a lot more loyal, sweeter, and work harder to keep our men satisfied!! Big girls are just as sweet and sexy as any other woman and in some cases even more so- we have the best curves!!!
2006-11-20 04:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
gals that are a bit larger than average are fine and many are very beautiful....but larger than life women who have four tummies and three necks and can't clap....well...people don't want them because they obviously can't care for themselves (and yes, some fat people have health issues). being in relationships is something that people do...and they take care of eachother...would you want a sloth taking care of you? would you really want to love someone with such bad heath that they might leave this word prematurely and leave you broken-hearted? do yourself a favor and eat a salad with no dressing instead of three cheeseburgers and get over asking why no one loves you.
2006-11-20 04:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hi.I once asked where i can get a BBW and all the yahoo community boooed me.i wish i could get you!AM SERIOUS BECAUSE am tall and i feel more okey with fat people to compensate on my height.although am this far get in touch at kiruja2003@yahoo.com.walk tall girl cos we are here loooking and waiting for a BBW(big beautiful woman)and by the way those thin women can suffer anorexia.i love big girls cos they most likely have other big traits eg personality,working hard,resilience,saving,frugality,loving et al
2006-11-20 04:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by ngai h 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
One should always be happy with someone that loves her.....provided it truly is love and not some other bullshit story they give you.....My mom never had a problem attracting men, there are plenty of men out there that see the women in her entirely as opposed to just her size, just her hair color....whatever. We are afterall, more than the sum of our parts.
2006-11-20 04:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋