So I'm seeing this girl. We have great converstaions. We have fun together. She even took the time to learn football because I'm such a fan. We have pretty good sex, and quite a bit in common. I'm not intensly attracted to her but she's easy on the eyes. We aren't officaly dating although I know thats what she wants. We hang out almost daily. My work sends me around the country a lot. I open new stores for a growing company. I helped open a store in Boise, and there was a girl there I can't get outta my head. She was sweet and cute as hell. I found out shes joining the new store team as well which means eventually we'll end up working together. I think something might happen. Now, like i said me and this other girl aren't offical, but we have everything but the title it seems. Do I break it off entirly with this girl, do I just say nothing if i hook up with the Bosie girl, or do I wait and see if I hook up at all, or do I make it offcial with this other girl. I don't cheat!
2006-11-19 20:39:13 · 18 answers · asked by espactor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You hang out almost daily, gave her hope, and even had sex with her. Then now you said 'NOTHING official"??? Is having sex just for fun for you??? What if someone did it to you???
2006-11-19 20:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that you and the football girl may have an unspoken "commitment". If you two have already spoke and agreed on having this dating style relationship ...then I say don't sweat it. If you two haven't talked this over..then you owe it to her to tell her that you are still interested in dating other people and that she should do the same. This girl you hooked up with in Boise....what do you really know about her? Are you totally caught up with her because of the physical attraction....who knows maybe she has a boyfriend or even worse a hubby.
1st--don't bite off more than you can chew
2nd--show integrity always by being honest
3rd--use condoms
4th--use condoms
2006-11-19 20:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you don't like absolutely everything about the girl that your kind of seeing now then you should break it off before you really hurt her even more. You definitely shouldn't try to play two women at once and lead them on, because your just going to wind up lonely in the end of everything. You should go after the girl that's stuck in your head. Especially if your going to be traveling a lot, that wouldn't be good for the girl you leave behind. Good luck and listen to your head.
2006-11-19 21:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't cheat yourself. This sexual twilight zone you're sharing with a girl you're "not intensely attracted to" is not going to last no matter how many rings and papers you throw at it. Meanwhile, every "new store team" in the world has a a "professional cutie." Now: which previous sentence made you the maddest? Now you know where you stand!
2006-11-19 21:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married so it really isn't a big deal to find someone else attractive and want to go for it. Don't break it off with her but tell her you're going to be busy for a bit and see if any sparks fly with the Bosie girl.
2006-11-19 20:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would not say that you are officially a couple. You started off as friends, and I would tell her that you would like to continue that way. Explain that you travel a lot and can not make a commitment to her. Also explain that you are too young to settle down, and that you want to have some fun with other people.
Seems to me like you are just F**k buddies. HOWEVER dont think you can have your cake and eat it, otherwise you will land yourself in serious problems.
2006-11-19 20:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It seems to me that you are already feeling a bit dishonest or you wouldn't even have to ask. I say (since you did) that you make sure things are absolutely officially unofficial with the first girl as she seems not to be "the one" any way. Then you are free to date them both and be up front about it.
2006-11-19 20:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out which girl is the one you truly want to have a relationship with. If its the boise girl, than you need to be honest with the no title girl and break things off with her. But if you do want to be with the no title girl, then you need to be strong and get this other girl out of your mind.
2006-11-19 20:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you want your cake, and to eat it! You are using this girl - plain and simple.
Tell her you value her friendship, but know it can't go any further. Stop having sex with her, and then see if you find someone who will put up with your sorry ars&e! Personally, I don't think you know what you want! What are you - 6?
2006-11-19 20:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
please break it of with the girl ur currently seeing (not the Bosie girl, the other girl) even if u dont get 2gdr wit da bosie girl, id say break up wit da 1st girl, coz u owe it 2 her...she shud b wit sum1 hu wants her completely, n is not wit her until sumtin better cums along...
2006-11-19 21:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by noodles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋