is this considered cheating?

Question

I have a boyfriend, but I want to "cyber" with another guy. I know its wrong, but i feel like my boyfriend hasnt given me enough attention. I've even talked to him about it, but nothing has changed. So I thought "why not cyber?" but I dont know. I wanted everyone's opinion first. What do you think?

Answer 1

It's cheating. Don't do it. Talk with your boyfriend about a solution to the problem so you don't feel the need to do this anymore. Good luck.

Answer 2

There are two issues. You must think and work on them separately. As you already know, having "cyber" with a guy while you are with your bf is cheating. "Cybering" is not solution to your problem with your bf. If you need someone who can give you attention you need, your bf may be not the right guy for you. If you want to stay in the relationship with your bf, you should have another discussion with your bf. Tell him how neglected you feel and ask why he is not willing to hear you. Although you might want a lot of attention from him, he might have reasons why he can't give it to you. Hear him out. You may have to compromise with him, if you are willing to stay with him.

Answer 3

This is a completely relative question.

For me, my policy is you / I can look and talk but we can't touch. Well you know, kissy stuff. I think its personally fine and healthy to fantasize about other people. I mean who wants to have the same flavor every day.

It sounds to me like you're *purposely* cybering with another guy to *get* more attention from your boyfriend, and I can tell ya that playing jealousy tricks on men usually has the opposite effect.

Answer 4

Personally I think it is, but it depends how you look at it. Physically you aren't cheating, but in a way you are mentally. It's really hard to say. I mean I'm just one person with one opinion, but I wouldn't do it. My best advice to you if you want to, is to ask yourself 2 questions first. 1) how would he react if he found out, would it end your relationship? 2)are you going to feel guilty?

If you can answer those and still feel okay with it, then maybe for you it's not cheating, when to others it is. Hope this helps!!!

Answer 5

the fact that you are even asking shows that inside you atleast would feel alittle bad about doing it and the real question you should be asking what would your boyfriend think and how would he feel and also what would you think if he cybered with another girl and how would you feel? in my opinion yes it is cheating but its your life live it how you will.

Answer 6

yep - be true to one - let the other one go

otherwise when you are married and your husband hasn't given you enough attention - what will you do?

yank his chain and get him back in line - not go to the computer and cyber some cheater

Answer 7

Definitely cheating! You need to talk to your boyfriend again. Dont be super harsh, but definitely make it clear to him that you are very unhappy and very unsatisfied. How would you feel if he did this to you? Yes it is very much cheating. You owe it to your boyfriend to try to sit down and talk it out. But if that doesnt work than you should end it with him. but DONT do this...dont cheat on your boyfriend

Answer 8

it is cheating.relationships are not always physical.it means emotional relationship.what happens when you feel so attached to your cyber boyfriend that you lose interest on you boyfriend.maybe your boyfriend has a cyber galfriend that is why he does not give you attention.

Answer 9

yes in a way it is cheating because you are thinking unclean thoughts about someone else other than your boyfriend either stop talking to that person or let your boyfriend know what you're doing.

Answer 10

i would consinder it cheating if you don't intend on telling him about it.

don't use the same excuse all cheaters use about not being given enough attention. talk to him or rather dump him and find another dude that will be attentive.