We were friends to start out, we worked together he quit that job to see if the marriage was worth keeping, later we found out I was having his baby I don't want to force him in to making a decision he tells me all the time he loves me and it is not working at home but he is still there I think he just want me to have his baby. he has no kids and she can't have any what do I do?
2006-11-19 19:57:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he can't stand living with her he should have left a while ago, even before you appear in his life. Wanting to break his marriage and leave his wife only after he met you means that you are a reason for breaking that home.
If she can't have babies, then there's a big possibility that he'd want you to have it and it would be an extra point for you in order for him to leave his wife and marry you. But put yourself in her place, would you like it if your husband (hypothetically) breaks his vows to you because you can't have children and because he found another woman that he likes better? and knowing that this is exactly what your man has done, would you trust him even if he left his wife?
We should be kinder to one another, and if that's the sort of a man that he is, he will probably leave you too one day for another woman. If eh leaves his wife it should be because maybe she's a bad person, cheats on him, they don't agree etc etc, but not because another woman showed up in his life.
2006-11-19 20:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has not left his wife yet. He never will. He can have sex with his wife and you. Why stop that? You need to stay away from him. Have the baby. Love the baby. And do not get into another relationship until you find a man that is single and will love you and the baby together. Your first priority now will be your child. Anything less is not fair for you or the baby. There is a single man out there that will love you if you will only look and wait.
2006-11-19 20:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 1st thing you should have done was to think about how his wife feels about this! Do you really think this 2 timer will leave his wife!? And you know he is a cheater...you already have proved that, so you will have to watch him like a hawk every second lest he finds another victim! (and he will!). Ask him how much child support a week he is going to give you, his answer will let you know right where you stand. CHEATING SUCKS! This is just another 'dog in heat' story...no one wins!
2006-11-19 20:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got yourself in a situation here. 1st mistake was being with a married man. Don't worry about pressuring him...girl you are pregnant with his baby... you pressure him as much as you need to to get whatever answers you want. He's not innocent either you know. I don't know if you want him to split with his wife & be with you but think of this.... if he cheated on her, he's got potential to do the same to you if he got with you, also there is proof he's cheated on his wife... if he decides to leave her she could get him for adultry and that means alimony...less money to support you & the baby...... If he loves you then bottom line... he'd leave her. If he doesn't then apparently his feelings for you aren't as strong as he lets on.
2006-11-19 20:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! He doesn't love you. He has a wife that he is still with. Have the baby and file for child support.Watch your back because the wife will know then.Rightfully so might I add.
2006-11-19 20:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you love that he is married and thats what you want - BUT - he is married to another woman - and off limits -
uhh think ahead - if he leaves his wife and marries you - what will happen at his next job when a single girl
'falls in love with him - and has his baby" - how will you feel?
say goodbye
2006-11-19 20:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone, you are willing to move heaven and earth to be with that person. There is nothing or noone that will get in the way of that committment and love. I know that he tells you that you are his best friend and soul mate...but who gets the holidays. weekends, and nights? If he wanted to be there with you he would be.
2006-11-19 20:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not gonna say what others did, that you did this to yourself because that's an absurd argument. men are sneaky. i realize that's a stereotype but i really think it fits your case. now that you're pregnant you also have to think about the welfare of your child. the man may tell you he loves you but he's certainly not showing it. is this the father figure you want for your child. why is it ok for you to take this from him when i'm sure that you wont want your child to.
2006-11-19 20:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THINK!!!
Do you now or have you ever professed faith in God?
You are playing with fire. First of all, words are just that, words. They don't imply action taken. Second, you have talked yourself into believing that he wants you more than his legally married wife. By your own words, it sounds like you know that he is using you. Are you going to give him the child so his wife can raise it? When are you going to start believing in yourself instead of men who know how to use you for their own gain?
Good luck. I hope and pray that you will come out of this a winner...
Dear God, I pray for this woman. She needs Your loving grace to touch her life, her mind, and her body. She needs assurance that she is a special person and does not need to trespass into the life of a married man. She needs faith and patience to wait on Your appointed man to come into her life. Grant her wisdom to see her mistakes and grant her strength to change her direction in life. Help her to renew her faith and/or come to you in faith for her salvation. Thank You Holy Spirit. I ask in the name of Jesus, Amen
2006-11-19 20:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by D.A. S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out! You have enough to worry about being single and pregnant without the worry of nursing a weasel!!
2006-11-19 20:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by renclrk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋