Two months ago, I met a girl at the mall I work at(we both work at diffent stores). I found out, shortly thereafter, that we are actually neighbors in the same apartment building. We spend time with each other everyday, whether it be a few minutes at each others respective work, having a cup of coffee, going out to dinner or making dinner for each other, or just watching movies and talking until 3am. I drove 4 hours with her to her parents house, and we only spent about 2 hours there, the rest of the time she showed me her hometown. I know that I like her, I just dont know how to say it. When I first started talking to her, she said that she didnt have a boyfriend, but was kinda seeing someone, but now reluctantly calls him a boyfriend, although she keeps saying that she doesnt see him as a long term boyfriend. I want to tell her how i feel, but I afraid to because I really enjoy her friendship. What should I say to her and how do I know if she harbors similar feelings for me?
2006-11-19 19:28:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
very simple...If you don't ask, you won't get.
ask her outright how she feels about you and be brave enough to tell her how you feel about her...then get the reaction and you will know what to do next..
You are affraid of being rejected and her telling you that she does not want you as a boyfriend.
You see, she was reluctant to call him a boyfriend at first cuz she was not sure how things were goonna go with you and if you would be upset by that fact or dump her as a friend.
If she does not want you as a boyfriend but just a friend, then you need know SOON and to decide whether to still hang around or not. Don't waste your time guesing and waiting man......move on.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 19:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is let her know that you enjoy being around her & you think she is a great person. She if she says anything after that about you. If she doesn't get the hint at what you are trying to bring up then just ask her if she might ever think of you as more than a friend. Say it sincerely so that she doesn't feel pressured or treatened. If she gets spooked then it's better to just drop the whole thing. If you like her now it chances are it would be emotional torture to try and remain friends if she doesn't think of you in the same way.
2006-11-19 19:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me and i will promise you it will work just tell her you like her what do you have to lose besides a no if she is a true friend than she wont get mad and chances are she already knows you like her she is just waiting for your move so this is how you do it the boyfriend thing is a front she trying to pull emotions from you see your reactions take to a nice dinner and not a movie cause all you do is watch the movie and don't talk then after dinner go for a walk make sure its not to cold but perfect start talking to her about stupid things make her laugh wants she laughs she is yours for the taking and then during one of her laughs say " you know what ever her name is i have been thinking i know you have a boyfriend but " and she will stop you right there and tell you how she really feels about you and you wont have to let it out that you want her and it wont change the feeling between you and if she does like you when she is done talking don't say a word cause you can talk yourself right out of it just kiss her
2006-11-19 19:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by smurf_shady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didnt like you, she wouldnt be spending so much tme with you. This other boyfriend was most likely a lie she now regrets. She took you to meet her parents.
Next time you are chilling out on the lounge try stroking her hair, if she doesnt pull away, massage her neck and if she is ok with that lean in and kiss her. Words are not required.
2006-11-19 19:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by F1antasyMaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do it will change the relationship. You can keep doing what you are currently doing and let things continue the way they are. Are you ready to change things? Maybe she likes you the way you like her. Or maybe not. Next time you two are alone and you feel comfortable tell her your not sure but you think you might have feelings for her. Ask her how she feels about that?
2006-11-19 19:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well it sounds like you guys are good friends so if you told her she would be understanding and wouldn't blow up in your face or anything. im sure shed be flattered.
2006-11-19 19:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋