I just ended a very bad relationship for the 5th and hopefully last time. She and I had been off and on for the past 3 years, durring which she ended our relationship three of the five times by cheating on me. She was always in control in our relationship, to the point that i turned down a full scholarship from a university in florida and rejected an offer to interview for gym job in virginia beach to stay close to her. unfortunately, all my other relationships have followed a very similar pattern, where my partner has been in complete control and abused that in one form or another, from mental games to physical abuse. i just can't figure out why i keep letting myself be controlled, and why, even now, i still want to be with my ex?
2006-11-19 19:05:05 · 7 answers · asked by Agonistes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to a professional therapist, these women have obviously messed with your head and you need to get all your emotions out in the open and then you will be able to move on, and you will be aware of what(not) to look for in a woman.
2006-11-19 19:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by hotbitch69_xoxo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You, my dear fellow, are probably falling under what we might call "sandbagging". Meaning you are selecting a type in your potential counterparts that share a similiar charactoristic that is set up for anything but success. You need to start looking outside of what you have known, and try something (someone) new, or that you are not familiar with at all. Dont select a type of partner that you would commonly have in the past.
2006-11-19 19:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kris p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to be on your own for a while -- fly solo and learn more about yourself. You don't have to do it for a long time, just long enough to be able to regroup, regain some sense of "self" -- independence and self-sufficiency. It will help give you some perspective about yourself, your past relationships and prepare you for your next (better) relationship! You have to love and respect yourself before you can expect the same from someone else.... or something like that. Good luck.
2006-11-19 19:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. Just like a dumb fool I married her because I could not get her out of my mind.....same as you....
Well after many years of married life I met someone and just walked out.
It was as if the dawn on a new day had arrived. Trust me leave her. I had two front teeth knocked out by that woman, and the police laughed at me, even the dentist. I would have been in jail if I had done that.
Leave her NOW.
2006-11-19 19:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by va3jrj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably has some bearing on childhood. Was your dad a panty waste? Did your mom rule the roost? That hoe cheated on you, it happend to me, it hurt, but once they put another man inside them you can't, I mean can't get back with them. I really know how you must feel, but please move on. By allowing it, I have to ask if your mom messed around on your dad, there is usually a reason for a man allowing himself to be disrespected the way you do. There are alot of women that love to take advantage of soft guys, be careful and good luck.
2006-11-19 19:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you come to a situation where you absolutely are fine living by yourself and being single , thats the time to get in a relationship , work out who you are first ,then get in a relationship ..oddly when you dont "need" anyone , thats the best time to be with someone as you are much more "yourself"
2006-11-19 19:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-19 19:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋