I have a friend who talks really too much, you can't imagine, sometimes i wish to tell her to "shut up" but that would be rude so how can i tell her politely?
2006-11-19 19:02:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1. she`s your friend. tell her the truth. if you`re really close to her she probably won`t get offended. make sure that she knows you`re telling her factually, not to offend her. she probably doesn`t even realize that she`s annoying you, especially if you never try to stop her.
2. make it obvious that you`re trying to focus on something else and she`s bothering you. just answer with nods or 'uh-huh' or something like that that shows you`re really not paying attention. if she gets offended say sorry and that you`re busy. people usually pick up on that hint.
2006-11-19 19:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The question is 'if she lies all the time, why are you still friends with her?' I dont think you should be rude and blatantly ignore her but just dont call or txt her too often, do not send her invitations to parties or meetings and she'll eventually get the point and she'll knows why this happen, if she doesnt make any effort to change... well, its her loss not yours (nor ur friends) On the other hand you, when you notice she is lying say something like 'oh come on hun, there is no need to say that, you know it' ... say it in a friendly tone as if it means nothing, as if she is still ur friend and care about her. perhaps she needs to talk (one on one would be better) about how does she feel and why she thinks she has to lie all the time. It is obvious she has self esteem issues and that she doesnt feel at the same level you and your gang are... other strategy might be organize a pajama party with all the girls and start playing some silly games in which all have to confess a secret and ask a question like 'what is the worst lie you've ever told' --this might be too straight forward but beforehand talk to the other girls and tell them to dont look like vultures looking for a prey when its her time to answer, do it casually and maybe something good can come from it. ---Those were my 'nice' solutions... but on the other hand, this attitude is not acceptable for me. I am a man and I wouldnt want to be friends to somebody who lies to me. If it was a girl I would say 'ya know, babe, there is no need for that, I dont like you for what u have' -- if it persists I would say 'I dont stand lies sweetheart... you are old enough and should be embarrassed' If its my mate, the same applies.
2016-03-29 02:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A kiss is a God-given technique by which a man can shut a woman's mouth without knocking her block off." So give your friend a big smooch when you want her to shut the **** up. That is, if you are a guy. If you are a girl, you will have to find a guy to smooch her for you.
Or, get a small container of BB's. Each time the loquacious lass opens her mouth to talk, toss BB's (gently!) into her mouth, one at a time. See how many "bull's-eyes" you can score before she shuts up.
2006-11-19 19:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she stops to take a breath, you say quickly,
"Hey, soandso, this is really interesting, but, how about we watch some TV ( you could say read book or listen to music, or anything else)? There is supposed to be something good on whatever channel.
If she gets offended, just tell her you want her to stop talking for a bit.
2006-11-19 19:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by novagirl117 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her. She might not be aware that she is talking that much. Could be a nervous habit. Tell her that you would like equal time to ask/answer questions she might have or that you would like to discuss things you want to talk about. Good Luck
2006-11-19 19:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by marsha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Let me know when it's my turn", " Are you going to stop for breath anytime soon?" in as light-hearted a way as possible, and she should get the hint without feeling hurt.
2006-11-19 19:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her an anonymous note.
Then when she feels hurt and tells you about it, you can comment on how rude and insensitive that scoundrel was, "but you know, I'm not agreeing with the jerk, but the thing is..."
2006-11-19 20:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what you cant if you tell her she talks to much your going to hurt her feelings the only way to solve this is to interupt her and chang the subject by oh hey i got to go so i will talk to you later or just be a good friend and let her talk
2006-11-19 19:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Knock her out, she'll never knew what hit her. When she gets up she won't remember what happened. Plus you'll get her to shut up.
ha ha, just some humor.
2006-11-19 19:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Screaminfiero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep asking really hard questions one after the other and she will get tired and pick it up cuz you are smiling.
Every annoying person wants attention. Give it to them and they cease to be annoying. could be ADD still there must be something you could put in her mouth you would both enjoy
2006-11-19 19:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋