would i benefit from going on the sick?

Question

i have generilised anxiety disorder, i feel like i am doing to much and need a break, kids get up at 6am i run around after them all morning, then i take the eldest to nursery, then i go to work at 2pm, finish at 8pm then when i get in all i seem to do is tidy up. when i last saw my doctor she offered to put me on the sick but because of my anxiety i felt better with company but now i feel tired all the time. do you think i should go on the sick for abit, i am not bothered about the money as my partner works

p.s.
my partner tries to help with the house work but he aint very good at it.

mim1978h.
i am not depressed i have anxiety there is a differance,you may be happy to be miserable but i would like to sort myself out for the sake of my kids no kid wants a unhappy/stressed mum now do they. maybe you should try sorting yourself out!!!

Answer 1

I have 3 children by myself,I have severe depression due to the death of my daughter and 20 years of domestic violence [I don't have that anymore]
My youngest is 1 and I get up in the night with her.
I'm also learning to drive,studying law,decorating my house which I just moved into and selling on ebay in my spare time.
I have no parents or close help.
You have to just get on with it,everyone else does.
I'd love to be able to go on the sick,but I ain't got time to.
It's called being a grown up,everyone has anxiety,gets tired and stressed but the difference is most of us don't have time to even get to the doctors let alone moan about it all.
Get tough.

btw I did sort myself out,I had 6 months of counselling,and anxiety can be part of depression.
The doctor can't cure your ignorance or self pity though.

And if you are struggling that much why post a question about wether or not should you have another baby ???

Answer 2

You sound as though you need some sort of a break, but I'm wondering what sort of break you need. Not everybody copes well at home with just domestic tasks, but unless you try it you will never find out.

What sort of job do you do? Is it a relief to get out & do it, or is it a burden? Also, what are the relationships like at work? Does your partner notice the untidiness, or is he too tired to tidy up?

You could find that a different type of work, or working fewer hours might reslove the problem long term.

I suggest you take a little time out & think through the issues with your partner, see how it makes you both feel, then make your decisions.

Answer 3

As a daughter who is seeing her mpther suffer something very similar, it would be best for you to go on the sick, espicially if you wont have any financial concerns. Take a break, stop, eat well and rest. The house wont fall down if you dont do housework everyday. This is about YOU getting better! Have a weekend away if you can, by yourself, somewhere quiet and peaceful and basque in the tranquility for a while, you could come home feeling 110% better and less stressed. My mother has been on the sick for 5 months now (she suffered a brain hemorage) She has decided to live eith her bro for a few months now as she feels like she is a burden on myself, I personally dont see it as that, but I cant give her all the help she needs, I have a full time job, partner has recently been made unemployed, and I cant afford to back her financially all the time. Do what feels right for you, that way when youre better, everyone benefits. Wishing you well

Answer 4

Go on the sick for a few weeks and see how you feel, you may feel a bit better after recharging your batteries. Do you need the money that you bring in? Would tax credits make a difference if just your partner was working? Try the website to see if you would qualify. When your partner helps you, either be grateful for his help as you can always do it your way next time it needs doing or ask him to do it in a certain way.

At the end of the day you need to think about your health and what is best for you and your family.

After you have had a break for a while you may feel able to go back to work, if not don't stay at home and look after your family. You have not failed anything, Please don't make yourself more ill than you are, it is not worth it.

Answer 5

Personally I think your partner should be taking a more active role in looking after the household. He probably isn't very good at it at the moment but practice makes perfect. I suggest it may be time for you to sit down with your partner and tell them how you are feeling. If you do go on the sick what you need to do is try and get some time for yourself, if it's feasible go away for a few days - see if a relative can look after the children.

Answer 6

Yes. Before you crack up totally or lose your temper with the children.
You are doing too much alone. If a sick note has been offered, the doctor must see this too. Take a month off and get yourself sorted.
Kick your husband up the back side too! He needs to help you here a bit more. Can you get another mum to take the eldest to Nursery? Then you take hers etc...give you both a break.

Answer 7

If the money's not an issue then why bother working? Try staying at home for a while and have the rest that you deserve but i think you'll probably get bored. You sound like a good mum. Learn your partner how to do the housework so you can rest more!

Answer 8

I do not recommend using any drugs to relax because when it wears off the tension and crap is still there. Besides Drugs Prescribed or not are all toxic for the body. I do recommend though a Good full body Massage once a week. or how ever often you feel is Needed. It sounds nuts BUt Massage can actually relieve any tension, stress, Emotional Mental and physical problems you may have acquired over the years/Month/days. Try it for a Month and If you don't feel any different then go ahead and try the Meds. But what could it hurt if there is a Possiblilty of never having to take drugs and get left feeling Uuuuuuugh after they wear off.

Answer 9

I think you should take a month off work and use that time to pamper yourself AND show your husband, how to do the jobs, properly.

Can he cook, because that is one definite thing, you could show him!!

Just imagine, coming home and a nice dinner is waiting for you and the housework is done!!

Everyone needs a break sometime, it's not laziness. If you carry on the way you are going, you'll burn out.

Superwoman was a fictional character!!!

Good luck.
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Answer 10

I think that you definately need a break so yes go on the sick for abit and if it's possible go for a holiday so that you relax and your stress will eventually calm down.