I am a father of a daughter who is 12.
One day I sneaked up to her bedroom to surprise her but then I saw her masturbating. IS this normal and what should i do about it?
Thank you.
2006-11-19 18:11:58 · 29 answers · asked by Counterfan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's okay Dad. It's normal and natural. She is discovering her body. I would find that a million times more comforting than if you had found her with some boy in her room.
2006-11-19 18:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutely is normal, and the best thing you can do for your daughter (and yourself) is give her some space.
At this age, she is likely beginning to feel the first twinges of puberty, and as much as I doubt you want to admit it, is starting to realize her sexuality :)
I know I would have been mortified had my parents ever caught me in the act, and I made sure I had my door closed whenever need be. I still had nightmares about them walking in on me, though!
You want your daughter to get off to a healthy start with her body image and self-esteem, and in a time like today when young women are hurled conflicting, confusing images of what they are supposed to look and feel like, self-image is more important than ever.
You are obviously a caring, thoughtful parent - you asked this question! If you feel you can muster the strength (and sensitivity), maybe try and have a chat with your daughter at the next opportune time. Otherwise, respect her space and continue to be a good father =)
Hope that helped.
2006-11-19 18:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by heathersak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a teen and i have never had anything that bad happened but i was home alone once and someone knocked on the door and then tryed to get in and for a couple of weeks i wouldn't sleep in my own room unless my parents were there or i would sleep with my sister or mom! My mom actually had to get me a baby sitter and i was 13 because i didn't want to be home alone! I was scared to death i would cry ever nigh i would never sleep i would start hearing awful things it was very scary! But she also could of got rapped i would Take her to a therapist! And make sure she nows that you will be there for you even if it consists of being up all night with her! Hope everything works out! xoxo
2016-05-21 21:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok most of these people here are right , Its hormones and fairly normal.. but the one thing they are forgetting is .. Early masturbation leads to a high sex drive.. I have a 22 year old son and he started masturbating early..
I am sure it shocked you as much as it did me...
Its not just masturbating at that age its more.... Please find a way to talk to your daughter about sex and so forth. because I can gaurantee you she will be sexually active a whole lot sooner than you will expect,,,
Above all else ... Stay calm.... but have a talk with her a soon as possible .. If you are married or have a girlfriend etc... enlist the help of a female..
Girls talk better with girls about these things....
Hope this helps :)
2006-11-20 00:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Joann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daddy! Knock first please. She's 12 now! If there's no lock on her door please get her one. This is very normal. Poor girl, she must be very embarrassed. So, that said, make sure she is not ashamed for life! It could affect her future love life if she develops some kind of aversion to these "feel good feelings" because daddy caught her. You can talk to her about it but indirectly. I wouldn't say, "hey, ya know, about the other day..." No, please! Perhaps you can talk about puberty in general and raging hormones and how normal that is and even your own personal experience. If you haven't talked to her about the birds and the bees that talk is LONG over due. She's of menstruating age if she hasn't already she will begin her period very soon. She needs to know details. Better to get info from you than from her friends at school. Remember at this age she'll go to her peers before coming to you. She'll get answers but are those the answers you want her to hear? Good luck, daddy and I'm sorry you had to see that. But, its normal.
2006-11-19 18:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal and you should really start knocking on your daughter's door from now on!
Also, do NOT bring it up to her! Can you imagine how you would have felt had your parents caught you masturbating as a teen? And then talked to you about it? Jeesh. Poor kid.
2006-11-20 03:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by wyllow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do oyu want her to become one of those poor women who never orgasm? Or who have to fake it because they never learned what there own sexuality feels like. Do oyu want her to be bitterwith men cause none of "THEM" can get it right? Its up to her to figure it out so she can tell her man(hopefully she won't have to) Let her get that orasm DOWN before she has to try and have one with a man when she's older. If she can satisfy herself NOW she'll be less likely to try and see if a guy can do it for her. Tell her that it is smart to get to know her body. She should and that you are sorry. Don't ever do it without knocking fist dude. How mortifying for her..
Get her a womens health book with an apology note saying that she's smart and you weren't.
2006-11-19 18:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by JODY b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is competley normal for a kid to masturbate, didn't you?
You should probably do nothing. Anything you say will only embarrass her and could cause some lasting damage, or angst at least, and you REALLY do not want that... trust me...
There is nothing wrong with your daughter... it is normal...
2006-11-19 18:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAH! Poor girl. Its normal to start masturbating at 12. Leave her alone, don't talk to her about it.
2006-11-19 19:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do a thing, Start to always knock on her door. She is turning in to a young lady.
She will probably be moody and pull away, it is all part of the hormones.
Especially as a dad, you need to give her privacy
2006-11-19 18:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋