If exs want to meet with you and u dated for 3 years and lived togather for 2 had alot of arguments and jealousy problems stupid things that were made out bigger then they should have. she says we have to be friends to rebuild relationship and i love her should i show her i care by meeting with her and working on our relationship or ignore her and let her come to me if she wants me?
2006-11-19 17:59:49 · 18 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to date someone with that many issues??? It will be the same or worse, run and hide from her...
2006-11-19 18:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself a couple questions first. 1. When you think about her, how do you feel? happy? angry? missing her? 2. Are you interested in working on the relationship? This is a yes or a no. If you have your doubts then its no. I know time makes it hard to just move on but I would. I'd meet with her from time to time to save what little friendship we did have. But honestly people keep their ex's strung along for their personal enjoyment or gain. i.e. - sex/support/hangin out buddy. You say you love her and thats cool. But I'd love her as a friend for a while. Don't ignore her just act like you want to move on.
2006-11-20 02:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her like you say you do, I don't see the problem. If you want her back you have to start some where. A relationship is as strong as two people make it. You have to work hard at it. So I think that you should meet her.
2006-11-20 02:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by gurly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her you would meet with her to talk it out, if you don't give her even that much she might think it's because you don't care enough to try, though it seems like you guys have some serious issues, especially the jealousy... maybe just friends would be the best thing until you can rebuild trust
2006-11-20 02:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by lira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very careful. People often hang out with there ex's for a long time only to find out they just want to be friends. When one person is still in love and even when both are still in love it is hard to go back. If you are not careful you might become clingy and obsessive just because you havent moved on.
2006-11-20 02:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by mcr_fan_4evr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet her.It shows you are willing to change or work with her-whatever is needed. We are too grown for chasing games.Rebuilding will definitely be needed.If you weren't friends before, you need to work on that.Lovers that last are friends as well.Sometimes,you need that person as a lover and sometimes you need that person as a friend-someone to talk to and not be judged, hang out with,etc.
2006-11-20 02:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on, which means you should NOT see her. It sounds like a bad relationship, why put yourself through seeing her again and bringing back all of the old pain? Just tell her you're not ready to see her and maybe you'll call her another time.
2006-11-20 02:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you care for her meet her half way show that you are sincere and interested if she is. don't have to bend over back wards lets see what she does too. but yes she will want to know if your interested so meeting her half way shows interest and that your up to that idea. also you have grown more now and hopefully what bothered you both back then you have matured a bit.
2006-11-20 02:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had a lot of problems first time around. You need to decide if you can handle it if things don't work out again. Is that something you are willing to risk?
2006-11-20 02:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by casey's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to meet with you how much more do you want her to come to you?? You have to meet in the middle in order for this to work out, if that's what you want.
2006-11-20 02:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋