My daughter is a beautiful 15 year old. Like most teenage girls, she looks older than she is. This weekend she had her friend sleep over. Her friend just turned 14 and is beautiful and looks and acts older. The friend has been over many times, and has been around my boyfriend (39 years old) a lot. Saturday night, my daughters friend told me that she feels uncomfortable with the way my live in boyfriend of almost 2 years has been looking at her. I started to pay attention, and while he does seem to be staring at her, I dont necessarily see him like totally checking her out, if you know what I mean. She also told my daughter that he stares at her (my daughter) when she isnt looking. Like he is checking her out. About a year ago my daughter on one occasion told me that she doesnt like to look him in the eye because she is afraid she may not like the look in his eye. I have seen him check out young girls in the stores before. He has a 9 year old daughter and 16 year old son.
2006-11-19 17:58:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your gut on this one. Just because he hasn't done anything doesn't mean he won't. This is AT LEAST two girls who now have told you they are uncomfortable. Talk more with your daughter, to see if there has been more than one time that he's made her uncomfortable (you might be surprised to learn more). I'd also suggest doing a background check on this guy. You can go to your local courthouse and it's free to check. Good luck to you.
2006-11-19 18:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you got issues, I mean guys do look at younger girls, but once they realize they are under age they quickly turn away, I mean most NORMAL men do. I really think that you need to take your daughter and her friends feelings into consideration in this situation, they are uncomfortable around him there has to be a legitimate reason for these feelings. I am not sure how you would handle this situation but you definitly need to address it some how and find out what is going on, you also need to be more observant and start to watch what he does or how he acts when he is around your daughter. Do you see anything suspicious if so then he needs to go... Good Luck
2006-11-19 18:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a long talk with him, see how he reacts, make it plain that you don't like him making them feel uncomfortable and to please watch how he looks at them and keep your eyes open. I also would never leave him alone with them. The friend could be the kind of girl that thinks every man or boy that looks at her is looking at her with want in their eyes. I've heard many girls (and some women) say that every guy that sees them wants them, these people are the ones with the problem, they are starved for attention. Your daughter needs to look him in the eyes. She can't know if she likes what she sees if she doesn't. For now I would give him the benefit of doubt. Young girls do exaggerate. But like I said keep your eyes open and do not leave them alone with him, can't be too safe where your children are concerned.
2006-11-19 18:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say that I would hate to be a single mom of a daughter especially these days. I suggest you move him out and see him solo (that is you and he alone) in a motel for the S.E.X. part of it. Unfortunately, these days if men were to be put in jail for looking and thoughts, 98% of men would be there. The trouble is so many girls of 14 and 15 just look so mature and older than they are, and yes they are HOT as hell... but the thought is not the problem, the problem is the close proximity.
2006-11-19 18:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by D J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better get his *** out of the house. If he is even looking at younger girls then he is looking at your daughter and her friend. I know that look and will tell you where it leads. I have been raped by several family members and live with that today. You don't want your daughter to go through that. If it was me I will put something on him that ajax want take off. Trust me. I have been there and you need to watch his movement when he can't see you when your child is in the room. Then you will know in your heart. You child isn't going to lie. You better do something noe before you regreat it in the future and your daughter don't have anything to do with you because you didn't protect her. Good Luck.
2006-11-19 18:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ready G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ALLWAYS trust your gut and the guts of those you trust. Chances are if you or some one thinks some thing is it... it is. a few years ago they did an interview on some Private Eyes and asked about when they have been hired to follow up on cheating spouces. they stated that if the person had a reason to question it, they were 99% right. so if some one tells you that they dont think some thing is quite right about how some one looks at your daughter, id follow up on that feeling.
2006-11-19 18:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by moonlightknight5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe that if your daughter feels uncomfortable and you have any doubt your mind about this guy, you are both right on the money. I know you have a relationship with this guy, but you are dealing with a pervert! Listen to your instincts and follow your gut. Nothing is stronger than a woman's intuition...unless you count a woman's fist punching this guys lights out in protecting your daughter. Kick him out!
Ew!
2006-11-19 18:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. For myself being a single mom but also having had things happent o me as a teen/child.... She may or may not tell you outright...she may just get an off feeling...she may not want to be near him & only when others are around (as was what I did)..... I wouldn't say anything to him just yet... but REALLY watch it all... talk to your daughter privately and ask her how she feels now about him and tell her your not going to disbelieve her and she can tell you anything. And regardless of anything you love her above everyone and want to make sure she is ok.
2006-11-19 18:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by SunRise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me such as you had a night terror. those are extra real looking than a typical nightmare and many times contain the sensation of screaming yet no noise popping out and issues seeming very real. i would not difficulty approximately it. human beings have them each and all of the time. It won't harm you or your daughter, it extremely is only frightening.
2016-11-25 20:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, but if you notice that his behavior is a tad odd around young girls then you need to let him move out or something because the situation can go down a road that no one wants to be apart of. Be aware!!
2006-11-19 18:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Icky B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋