How do I let go of a love?

Question

I am a 21 year old mother of 2.I am in love with my daughters dad witch is now my ex boyfriend and I want things to work but he is with someone else...I know just because you love someone does not mean you can be with them.I try to hide my feelings for him every day and go on with my life,but I think of him all the time.At times I think I hate him but then the truth sets in and I still love him.How do I move on with my life not just for me but my kids as well.How do we get our minds to stop thinking about the what ifs.My heart wont let go and its been over a year.what do I do to change my thoughts in a day. and do I stop fighting for him or do I wait and see if there could be an us again..please help

Answer 1

Honey,

It's time to move on! It's been over a year!

You need to think that you are cheating yourself and your children out of happiness! What you had with your ex may have been good--but there is always someone esle who can and will treat you better! You have to stop waiting for your ex and wait for God to send the right person to you!

Answer 2

Time heals all wounds. I wish I could say there was remedy to heal in a days time but there isnt. You have 2 kids that need you to be there strength,show them you are a strong woman. If things are meant to be between you are your ex let it come on its own time. Focus on you and your kids and keep going forward.I know it easier said than done but know you are not alone in your struggle to get over a loved one.

Answer 3

Believe me it is hard to let go of love. It took me 5 years to let go of my ex-husband even though he was an awful person. But everyday when you wake up you need to think about that day and that day only. As long as you have your children that is all that matters. It will pass eventually, but not without you WANTING to move on. Good luck and remember IT GETS BETTER!!!!

Answer 4

If the relationship is broken, just let him go.

You are young and he is not the only man in the world for you.