am i weird?

Question

Hi i am fifteen and i have fealings for a 25 year old i find myself crying over him and i'm afraid that i might be crazy i have felt this way for 3 years but i'v known of him for 7 almost 8 years when i first saw him the first thing i thought was that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him ! but i have never confroned him and i would not confront him till i am at least 18 i want to be sure of myself my heart tells me that the way i feal is true my mind tells me i am crazy . nd i am afraid that if i do confront him becuse of he history of menal illness in my family he will think i am crazy too! i can say i have never in my life have felt this way towards eny one like i said at the top i cry over him . the first time i saw him and i heard his voice i swear i felt like i'd had known him my whole life . so my question is am i crazy? am i weird? do i realy love him? God i feal like crying now! please be serious about this ! i realy need your advice! Thank you! and God Bless!

Hi, i just had to reply about some of what yall are thinking . my father is a great man and my mother is a great women they are always there for me they teach me respect and so much more so i do have a father figure in my life . i beileve in waiting till i am married before having sex ! and no matter how much i like this guy. i would not give in for him if he loves me he would understand and love me enough to respect my dision. i would never quit school over a guy. becuse i want to make somthing of my self and i can still date a guy and go to school too! i want yall all to understand that i'm not in a dipression mode where i'm not eating or sleeping and i'm crying all the time. yes i do cry over him but it's mostly when i have had a realy bad day and i start thinking about him! if he gets married before i turn 18 then i am going to take it as a sine from god that me and him were not ment to be. i would be upset but given time i would be able to move on. why don't i do that now?

becuse i feal there is a chance! mabe i was just to quick to say i love him ! what i mean by that if somthing ever happend to him i would be upset ! and 10 years i'm not going to lie that is a big number . it shocked me at first but even though he was 25 and me just being 15 i still could not have helped to feal the way i feal about him. i thought about all the other people who have had big age differents katie holmes and taht guy she just got married to they had i think it was a thirteen year differance and celin dion and my grand parents had a 10 year differance so i ask why them and not me ? i don't know what i will do but i know i am going to think a lot more about this ! god bless ! and thank you for your advice !

Answer 1

you are not crazy. i felt this way when i met my boyfriend who i have now been with for 2 years but it was differetn becasue we both mutually liked eachother and he said he liked me first. i know how you feel though. restless like you can't live without him like you need him and are crazy for feeling that way. i feel that way every day which people might believe is crazy but i call it love., but since you have not confronted this guy he wont know how you feel he could feel the same. but he is much older then you and i understand that because my man is 3 years older then me and there is not that much of a difference since girls mature faster then boys and i know in your head you think your ready to be with this man but give it time. at least tell him how you feel to get it off your chest. it's better to know then to never know at all and see what could have been. but be careful older guys can be dangerous even if you have known them forever guys turn real fast just be careful and go in this situation with precautions. i hope everything works out for you .

Answer 2

No you're normal. Just part of growing up. Go read up on hormones. Your 15 and your body is cranking them out and you'll think you're losing your mind, but hang on and wait a bit. You'll be fine. I think many people have gone thru what your going thru.
If you were 25 and he was 35 that might be different, so there's still that chance someday right? Just relax and stay friends, alot can and will happen between then and now.

Answer 3

So, back when you were seven or eight years old, in second or third grade you judged an eighteen year old man and decided you wanted to make your life with him? That is very immature. You need to drop this destructive fantasy.

In three years he will be nearing thirty. That's the next galaxy over from an eighteen year old. Concentrate on school and guys your own age. In fifth grade I had a huge crush on my fifth-grade teacher. Guess what? It meant absolutely nothing and nothing came of it.

Answer 4

NO, it's probably just your Hormones and Lust. Maybe you are attracted to his personality, or maybe him physically. I think that you care for him a lot, not love him. I would not try to pursue him if i were you, live out your years, and who knows you might find that you like a guy at your school, someone on your age level, and probably/hopefully less experienced.!!

Answer 5

Love or Lust


Love is a very personal conection, its physical and emotional. You obviously havent gotten a close enough to have either one. Your not crazy but its not love, and to be honest with you peple at your age arent even old enough to know what love is

Answer 6

I would question what your relationship with your father is like. If it is distant, are you looking to this older guy as a "father figure"--someone who will take care of you, because you feel the need to be cared for? What is it about this guy that attracted you to him? Does he have characteristics that you wish your father had? Please take time to sort out your feelings with a trained therapist. You'll be glad you did!

Answer 7

sounds like a big crush you arent crazy its just that its hard for you to deal with him being older than you...its good u wanna wait till your 18 to see its real or not! or to even tell him but anyways my advice dont drive yourself crazy over this guy! do things to keep you busy finish school you have your whole life ahead of you dont waste it on crushing and goen nuts over some guy....

Answer 8

i feel da same way 4 all of my crushes. i think it s just infatuation. many Tnagers like me n u go thru this Phase but dont let yr feelings , emotions carry u away. this can land u in serious truble. lol

Answer 9

THIS is an obsession over some one.I WOULD talk this out with a trained counselor.WHAT if in 3 years he is married?

Answer 10

I guess its OKay and if he is willing to wait for you for you become legally eligible to marry you should be able to spend rest of your life with him (and whatever will be left of his : - )