Please help! My eight year old puts himself and others in danger!?

Question

I was told he has cognitive disability, but he doesn't seem to be having a hard time learning, he just seems to do alot of dangerous things, and doesn't feel bad when he does them, even when it's hisself he hurts, I can't even have a camp fire because he loves fire, he started one in my room, when he was helping me take our kittens outside to play, I turn around and he's not there, he's in my room and when I went to go in he tries to push me out, when I went in my dresser was on fire, I had to throw a jug of water on it, how can I just him to stop doing things like that?

Answer 1

Your child is not the only one with problems like this. Professional help is in order when the child's behavior is dangerous to them or others. Do not take it lightly. Your child needs a complete psychiatric evaluation to determine what the problem is, and what you can do for your child, and to protect your family.

While I'm sure you love your child dearly, you may have make some serious decisions to ensure everyone's safety. God be with you. I pray He will guide you to the right specialists who will have positive, loving answers for you. Amen.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 2

Tips For Communicating With a Person With a Cognitive Disability
By Jordy



A person with a cognitive disability often has more difficulty with one or more mental tasks than the 'average' person.

Make sure you speak very clearly.

If you don't know what the person needs or wants, simply ask him/her.

If you give directions to a person with a cognitive disability, try to make them easy and clear. Use shorter instructions and simple, direct sentences.

Help the person remember directions by providing picture clues or other visual images.

If the person has trouble understanding you, repeat the information using different wording. You may also suggest that the person take notes to help himself/herself remember.

If you don't understand the person, don't pretend that you do. Ask him/her to repeat what they said.

Rehearse, role-play, or model important information with the person.

Use gestures or diagrams to explain things.

When you are sharing information, speak slowly and give the person time to think the information over before continuing.

Make things as concrete (less abstract) as you can.

Don't use humor that the person may not understand. If you do use humor, and the person doesn't laugh, don't think the person's rude. They just didn't understand the joke.

Don't expect everyone to be a good reader. Some people might not read at all.

When you are traveling with a person with a cognitive disability, add cues like, "We'll be leaving for Madison, Wisconsin in half an hour".

Citations

Online Resources

"Communicating With People With Disabilities." Access Office Disability Support Services; St. Louis Community College. 28 January 2005 .

"Tips for People With Disabilities." ACPA Task Force on Disability Issues; University of Minnesota Crookston. 8 November 2004 .

Answer 3

Your kid is a brat. probably very intelligent and bored with the regular stuff. If I were you, I'd put him up for some difficult physical activity that keeps him busy and teaches him stuff too.

It's good that you have pets. But more than kittens, your son should have a big dog, that cannot be easily taken for granted. When he sees that even others can "accidentally" hurt him, he'll learn to show some empathy. A little show of strength from you too can teach him a lesson in taking others in consideration.

yes, you can go the easy way, drug him. Never talk to him, treat him like a diseased patient who can get away with anything because "it's a chemical imbalance in his head" etc. You can do all that and give him an excuse to never improve on the pretext of having a disease. Or you can work to make your kid all that he is capable of doing and being the man he deserves to be and the kid you wanted to have. But it requires hard work, on your part and his and there is no such thing as free lunch.

If you keep giving excuses for his bad behavior, he'll learn to pretend that it's all because of a disease. And please don't tell me that it's a mental illness and can't be cured; people can heal of cancer if they put their minds to it. Yes, look it up. People have overcome some really big problems and diseases to do some great things. Please stop giving kids an excuse not to improve.
Please.... the society owes at least that much from the parents.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Take him to see a professional counselor and/or psychiatrist.

This is an internet question and answer forum and as such should not be taken very seriously when it comes to health concerns. See real people about this problem.

Good luck,
Big Al Mintaka

Answer 6

Impulse control is one problem. I'd have him evaluated by a child psychiatrist now. If you wait something horrific could happen and that would ruin his life as well as others.
There are solutions.

Answer 7

Please pay attention to only the people who tell you this. Get this child some professional help now. Do not put it off. Your very life as well as his may be in danger.

Answer 8

Well... my gut says this is directly related to religion. I have nothing against any religion or lack thereof... I just trust my feelings.

(It's hard to accept a mother like above would turn such a kid into a zombie.)

Answer 9

This is your son? You and he both need to be in therapy -- him how to realize what he is doing,and that it is wrong, and you to better handle him so he doesn't burn you all up in the house.

How can you get him to stop doing things like that? Frankly, lady if he were my kid, I'd request the doc to have him so heavily tranquilized that he couldn't do things like that.... glad he's yours and not mine, sweetie.

Answer 10

has it occured to you he might be a phycopath seek doctor help