well people say that look doesn't matter but well that is not true and looks does matter to alot of people and well i don't have any chances to be with someone cause i am not attractive and i am not good enough for anyone so my chances are very slim...........
2006-11-19 17:43:09 · 18 answers · asked by ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I believe you will find someone as long as you don't miss the opportunity that comes to you, "We are each the love of someone's life." Sometime we see lonely people on the streets, no family, no love, whatever-- I think that they had just missed the opportunity for the one. So keep your eyes open and make sure you love yourself, because just think about it, Would you want to be with someone who hated themself? How could that person possibly love you the way you want if they don't love themself?
Second, you need to be more confident. If I heard a guy say "I am not attractive" I would probably agree, not because of his physical appearence but because of his lack of confidence. "Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical."
I think you should just focus on your inner self and let that shine through. I bet you are attractive anyways, we are our worst critics. You will find the one, if you believe you will--- you will!
2006-11-19 17:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be so hard on yourself? This is a superficial world we live in, and sure looks matter to alot of people. What are the good qualities about yourself? Don't allow yourself to think that you don't have something to offer anyone. Stop focussing on what you don't have right now. Do things that are mentally, physically and spiritually pleasing to you, and get active in helping others. You have no idea who takes notice of you. Someone may be observing your qualities and you're totally unaware. Just don't give the impression that you are desperate for love, because that draws the absolute biggest users. You need to build up your self-esteem(self-worth). Surround yourself with friends and people who encourage you and are honest. Noone needs people who spend their time endlessly flattering. You'll be fine, the best person for you is coming, don't rush.
2006-11-20 02:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by ---- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not look for a love, love will find you itself , and when it does, it will be the best thing in your life, it will be so unexpected. Looks DO matter, but only at the beginning, if you are beautiful inside, that what matters!
And always remember, it is better to be alone than be with a bad person only because you dont have any other options!
2006-11-20 01:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by All I want is to be LOVED! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, it's true that looks are important to some level, I'm not going to lie to you, but personality is still more important. What's killing you is your confidence level. You need to be happy with who you are and not focus so much on what you look like. Your confidence will radiate out. Who knows, you may just have low self esteem and think that you aren't attractive. Again, either way it is your confidence level that is killing you. Before anyone can be happy with you, you need to be happy with yourself.
Good luck hon!
You will find someone! Change your style around, experiment, find something that accentuates who you are until you are comfortable. You'll do fine.
2006-11-20 01:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur chances may be slimmer than dudes off tv but that dont mean u wont find someone. Peoples main concerns in life shouldnt be whether they will find someone. Be happy in urself first, an then things will come with that. Are there things that you excel in? Get familiar an get confident!
2006-11-20 01:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to learn to love yourself before you can expect anyone else to really love you. Your self esteem is in the gutter. Find someone to help you improve on your self worth! Ever heard the song "Everybody's Beautiful"? Well, it sounds corny, but it's so true. People who judge by looks alone are shallow and unmotivated to look beyond the exterior, and for that reason, you don't need them! There's someone for everyone!
2006-11-20 01:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you male?
If so, then it is much easier for you to find someone. You can walk up to a girl and start talking to her and see if you might have the chance to get to know her.
On the other hand, if you are female, just go out more and be seen. A guy is bound to hit on you, especially if you are smiling and obviously enjoying yourself.
2006-11-20 01:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by denh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here is something to think about hon. ask yourself are you the only one with this problem? nope so many guys think this way and in their communications with females we read this. many girls can tell if you are thinking less of yourself, so dont. people see what you want them to see. if you want them to see smart they will see smart in you if you want them to see confidence they will see that in you it's in your hands to show confidence in yourself.
also try to dress nice if you dont already do. see what fits your body type and go for it. keep it simple being approachable is the key to dating.
reflect the things that you envy in others, lets say you have a smart friend or a well read one, try to open up in other fields for yourself. make yourself the envy of others by reflecting what is best in you.
not all women go for the alpha males because many women dont feel safe with an alpha male.
think about the goods in you and add them up everytime you see a better looking guy than and everytime your self confidence is shook tell yourself am good at .... this and ...etc
also change your cologne to something sexy and see how you feel. new clothes, work out, a good shave and a cool pair of shoes may be will boost your confience my friend
and good luck
2006-11-20 01:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by evildoodleeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the looks matter, but only in the beginning. i've known some very ugly people and after i got to know them i loved them very much, and on the contarary sometimes the guy is way cute, but it doesn't matter for me, or i even can't stand him because of his personality. and it's true, you understand it with the age, the looks are more important when you're very young. i'm still young(24yo), but i'm much wiser then when i was 18yo, so i see all of that now :-)
2006-11-20 01:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by olgochka82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is the key here. You seem to lack confidence. Looks aren't everything. Be yourself, and keep looking. You will find someone. Don't be so hard on yourself. The more you say how unattractive you are, the more others will believe it also.
2006-11-20 01:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋