ok, I have a friend who actually "died" twice! From overdose of heroine. They had to bring her back. She had no heartbeat-lips were blue,she was dead (the doc's say) She lost her boyfriend in her arms as he died of the same thing. She has a beautiful baby son that I know means the world to her. I know drug addiction is a disease. She is on a med patch to help w/the withdrawl and the urges.This last incident her family had to do c.p.r. w/her baby sitting next to her, she now has to go to counsling and have drug tests done. She asked me for my urine to pass off as hers. she said she took a pain pill and it will show up. She just aksed another friend 2day for the same favor cuz I said don't come to me again I can't do it. I'm so scared that she is prob doing more than she is saying and I love her so much! She will lose her child if caught doing anything. And We could lose her to drugs. mayb 4 good this time. if i tell her parents, they will tell her I told them. What do I do?
2006-11-19 17:26:11 · 11 answers · asked by same girl/new name :) 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
her parents work in a hospital I think maybe they know but are ignoring it? She never has the baby alone. She lives w/them.
2006-11-19 17:34:25 · update #1
your her friend and this is going to be tough but don't try to help her pass her drug tests by giving your sample of pee Drug addicts are very manipulative people.Set some guide lines sit her down and tell her you will not lie for her and tell her not to treat you like a idiot by lying to you. Tell her you are only too happy to support her to help kick the habit. As for the baby i really feel sorry for the child especially when there are so many people who are childless out there and would love a child. Maybe it would be better to have the child placed in care until she gets her act together and cleans up. I know this sounds like tough love but you have to be for her sake
2006-11-19 17:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by tori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If shes that much of an addict then you probably feel like she already is dead, at least let them take the child away so it has a chance and and she has a chance to recover. Maybe having it taken away will be her wake up call. You love her, her parents love her, you all need to stick together and push her in the right direction. I'm not talking bullshit either, I watched my boyfriend go through an addiction, I know first hand. There is no way she is making rational decisions right now and she could even harm the child so I am begging you, tell someone right away!
2006-11-20 01:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tricksta-Vic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be with her as much as you can, doing things that don't encourage drug use. Maybe she'll lose the habit if she can develop interests in other things. Theres so more to life than drugs, but for most addicts this isn't true. So you just have to give her life another outlet to have fun.
2006-11-20 01:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Empty Skies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, i'm sorry to say this, but tell. Yes, the baby will get taken away, but your friend should get better. And when your friend gets better, they should give the baby back. tell before it's too late and she dies, either way, death, or help, her baby is going to be out of the pic, at least for a while. So tell and she can get better.
2006-11-20 01:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by coca_cola_froggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they have a right to know. You withold what you know and something very serious could happen that you would have to live with the rest of your life. If she died, that poor little baby could be in the house for a while with no one to take care of him if someone didn`t find her right away.
2006-11-20 01:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LET her go. She needs to lose her child, maybe that will be the wakeup call she needs...we all love our friends and do what we can to help, but enough has to be enough at some time.
If she od's that was her heart's desire and nothing you can ever do will change that..she has to find strength to live within herself, nobody else can give her that, not even her child.
You are just telling her it is OK to do drugs because you are covering it up for her.
2006-11-20 01:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by rynay 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am so sorry for u i have been in the same situation. but our friends turn us in to enablers , because we love them we help them but in the long run it hurts us and them. tell ur how much u love her but u can no longer be an enabler, i know its hard because right now i am raising my niece because her mother is in mandatory rehab right now and her father commited suicide 4 yrs ago. Its no life for her baby and she might unintentionally hurt the baby long the way.sometimes tough love is the only way. it not only hurts her, but you and her family too. please be strong and do the best u can good luck and i will pray for ur friend .
2006-11-20 01:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by cemlkd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two words: Betty Ford
2006-11-20 01:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to save her you tell everybody exept the police
she will need all the help she can get
2006-11-20 01:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sucks all around.
2006-11-20 01:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by RoninShonen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋