I was dating and engaged to a "good" Christian girl from a missionary family. I caught her cheating on me and i forgave her. Twice. Then she got cought again and she got mad at me for catching her. Then she starts dating the guy she was cheating on me with and now all I hear from our friends is that she is telling everyone what a wonderful christian guy he is and he wants to be a pastor and blah blah blah. He knew she was taken, and it didn't matter. I have the proof, should i out them both. If that is what Christians do then I don't want to be a part of that. If God wants people like that then consider me a former christian. Would it be better for christianity to have the truth come out about them?
2006-11-19 17:21:56 · 15 answers · asked by Jim V 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am hating God for allowing these kinds of situations to exist. I took this to Him and feel no closure. I guess the basic question here is: Should christians be alowed to conduct themselves badly without other christians calling them to task on it. I never said i was perfect, but i am tired of bad behaviour being condoned and ignored - both by man and God.
2006-11-19 17:48:02 · update #1
The Lord wants no one to be treated like a doormat. Forgive, yes. Forgiveness doesn't mean accepting bad behavior, and condoning it. God doesn't "want people like that". Are you classifying "cheating" as sexual immorality? If so, then they were in sin. All I can recommend is to leave them alone, walk away and run into the arms of the Prince Of Peace, where you will find comfort and rest. Continue to seek His face, He has the "right" girl for you, just be patient.
2006-11-19 17:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can put a glove on a duck's head. That don't make it a rooster. A lot of people call themselves Christian. Anyone can do that. Actions speak louder than words though. I was in a same situation with the "good" Christian girl. Best thing to do is let it go, even if that seems hard to do. Revenge won't bring her back to you, it won't make her see her mistakes, it won't bring you some grand conclusion. If she's gonna redeem herself, she's gonna have to do it herself. Don't let her drag you down into the muck. You'll only give her more power over you, which is usually what girls like that want. I know it's tempting, especially if you have ammunition to use, but it's best just to let it go, and find someone that respects someone that can forgive such things.
2006-11-19 17:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you had a very bad experience, which you linked it to CHRISTIANS, but I as A CHRISTIAN or any other CHRISTIAN we are HUMAN FIRST with our own issues/faults. Not to justify her actions because they are BOTH in the wrong, but maybe you need to deal with this situation and leave GOD out of it, because he did not do the cheating, maybe he allowed you to catch them so that you would LEAVE and find the one who is really meant for you instead of lingering, and prolonging your relationship, Don't worry about them, GOD does his work and does it well, whatever they do/did in the dark will come out into the light, and although you seem to be hurting and want revenge, let GOD do what he does, in you wanting to spite the both of them it might not always happen the way that you want it to.
GOD BLESS!!!!
2006-11-19 17:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can we be mindful in our walk if we are watching everyone else's. Don't take your mind and eyes off God... keep fighting the good fight in faith, doubts are a normal thing when something like this happens depending on how strong your faith is. I had a fiancee marry my cousin, before God blessed me with a good Christian man. Yet I know that it was because I didn't let the pain of that failed relationship shake my faith. Trust in God not people they will always let you down. But don't just take my word for it pray.... prayer changes things. Remember the battle is not yours it's the Lords
2006-11-19 17:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK question was she sexually cheating or just dateing the other guy. Let God take care of her either way and go on with your life It sounds like she was not the one for you anyway . Hopefully she and he has ask got for forgiveness in your situation. If not that is there problem . Not yours anymore. Don't hate God for what she did .Go to another chuch and get on with your life. There's someone for you that's better You will see and someday you be thanking God for letting you have someone better.
Hugs Diane
2006-11-19 17:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not right to judge all Christians because of the actions of your girlfriend. If she was black, would you then judge all black people based on her actions? Of course you wouldn't -- you'd be a racist if you did.
Well, the same standard applies to every group, including Christians.
As with every other group of people, there are Christians who behave in ways that the rest of us would never behave.
Also, remember that while your girlfriend cheated, this future-pastor guy she's seeing now may not have cheated. He may not have known that she already had a boyfriend. I've dated guys who, unbeknownst to me, had girlfriends. That's happened to me three or four times -- and in every case, I stopped seeing them as soon as I found out they were cheating. I'm not into that.
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2006-11-19 17:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jim V. That your girl friend was cheating on you doesn't have anything to do with being a Christian. Consider yourself lucky you found out before you married her. Move on. Forget about her, don't out anyone.
2006-11-19 17:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has this to do with God?
God Doesnt want people like that, your taking your eyes off of God and onto man, this may be a blessing have faith that God will take care of this, You be a man after Gods own heart and you will be blessed.
2006-11-19 17:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by nunyabidness46324 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's two against one here: your word against theirs. I'm on your side in the situation--I think her actions would be less than honorable under just about any religion's code of conduct. But from my experience, it's hard to convince a crowd of people that don't want to hear it that someone who's one of their own is less than virtuous. Plus, it can backfire and ruin your reputation. I would save yourself the additional emotional pain and try to move on. I don't know anyone who will say that God would approve of her behavior--it was just plain selfish, dishonest, and unloving. I'm with you--I wish there were far fewer skeletons in our religious leaders' closets.
2006-11-19 17:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the best "Confrontation" is none at all.You're the "Good One" that was faithful.Move on,there are lots of females in your same situation,that would "Love" to meet an honest guy like you.Cut your losses,move on revenge is self defeating.
Best of Luck!!!!!
2006-11-19 17:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by candlestick1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋