She prosed with her and one of her girlfriends and its not that she isnt vute and all, but i'm just not comfortable with that. At the same time i dont want her to think i'm narrow minded about experimenting. Is there any way I can show her i'm interested in doing fun things but just not with someone else?
2006-11-19 17:20:17 · 21 answers · asked by john s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, That is every guys fantasy... Get over your insecurities, and go for it........
2006-11-19 17:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by whidd2003 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think Zeebya got it right here… and he speaks from experience like me. But I'd also add if she's asking to have a Threesome with one of her girlfriends… I'm thinking she may have already had a twosome with her girlfriend. Ask her if she's Bi or are they both only interested in sex with you and not each other.
It certainly is a complement if they're both interested in you…you Dog. But maybe of your girlfriend wants to have her “cake” and eat it too… or is that pie?
You didn't really state WHY you're not comfortable with this. So it's kind difficult to answer the real core of the question. Obviously the other two are interested but still for an unknown reason.
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2006-11-19 17:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go the extra mile with your girlfriend. Show her that you can do special things with her without a third party. Surprise her, do something for her that will just blow her mind. For example, plan a surprise night for just her and you. When she gets off work or school, have the rest of the day and night planned for her. Pick her up and take her somewhere she hasn't been but will love. Her favorite restaurant for dinner is a must. After dinner take her for a walk, anywhere nice, calm and quiet. While your on your walk text your friend that your on your way home. Your friend will light an abundance of candles around your place. Keep a window open because it does get warm. Have flowers and make your place so warm that she won't even want to share it with a third person that night or maybe ever. good luck man.
2006-11-19 17:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pzee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've just answered your own question: you obviously DON'T want a three-way with her.
So, if she wants to get into that, and you don't, don't be surprised when she looks to someone else who is more open-minded. The need/want to have recreational sex of the type she wants is a very deep-rooted desire, and since she's approached you with it, she's obviously been interested in the idea for some time.
Differences in fundamental sexuality can cause great problems in a relationship. She's the recreational type, while you sound more traditional.
Honestly, she's probably going to be happier with someone who feels the same as she.
2006-11-19 17:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her exactly what you've said here. You are open-minded about other stuff, but you really don't want to have a threesome. Open communication is the most important thing in a healthy relationship.
2006-11-22 09:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a HORRIBLE idea. While I have never been involved in a three-some myself, I have never heard good things when a couple and a third party are involved in it. It is not narrow-minded to not want to cheat on your girlfriend. Maybe suggest she and her friend want to experiment and you're okay with that perhaps you can watch and that will be enough. My biggest beef with threesomes is that someone will ALWAYS feel left out... it's bound to happen. Most importantly, talk to her exactly about how you feel, I'm sure she'll think your devotion is great. Good luck though!
2006-11-19 17:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Flip L 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell her. Some girls will offer a threesome because they think it's what their boyfriends want. Tell her you don't, that you want your girlfriend alone. Ask her why she wants a threesome. There might be a reason that you can agree with (did it before and wants to share that with you, never did it before and wants to do everything with you, she's bisexual but never wants to have sex without you ever again, etc) or she might say that it's for you, in which case you can say, "Thanks, but no thanks."
2006-11-21 01:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring some toys into the bedroom. But if she's curious about being with another girl and has never been with one, let her explore her fantasy's. Sit back and enjoy the show and who knows you might like it.
2006-11-19 17:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you f*^#ing insane? Your girlfriend's suggestion is on the back of every right minded guy's mind.
What's WRONG with you...Just go for it.
2006-11-19 17:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by yasiru89 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs to take some time to think about her sexuality
2006-11-19 17:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by techno_baby111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other and Value your future Dont Do It!.Tell her straight up your not comfortable about it
2006-11-19 17:23:53 · answer #11 · answered by missamerican_pie007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋