i dont really now wut to call this guy... i am not dating him, coz we havent gone out on any dates, at the same time i cant say that we r friends with benefits, when there is only the benefits part, no friends. we have never talked about ourself. he would just come over and talk for a few mins and then we make out and stuff. i am ok with friends with benefits, but then i want that friends part too.. i want to talk, hang out .. outside MY room, do other stuff. but i dont know wut to do now. should i tell him that i want more, or should i just feel happy with wutever is going on or not think too much abt the whole situation?!!!!
2006-11-19 17:18:09 · 9 answers · asked by aiyinamyna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's using you. You're giving him everything he wants with ZERO expectations in return. Its not really his fault though, because you let it start off this way, so he has no reason to expect you to want anything different. Don't be suprised if he bails after you ask him for more.
If you want to go with an option that will hurt you the least:
BE THE FIRST TO END IT AND DON'T LOOK BACK.
If you want to continue to torture yourself and feel miserable:
1.) continue making out with him
2.) demand more from him
3.) accept things the way they are when he says he can't give more
4.) continue making out with him regardless...
2006-11-19 17:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is not friend material, he is way to comfy with his benefits it is to late, he has it all twisted now. If he would of wanted a friend he would of made you his friend by now. If you have not been on a date yet chances are you won't be going on one any time soon. The way I see it is that us as females want to play a man's sport but it dose not come as easy to us, we do tend to get emotionally attached in some way or another. Cool so you like the benefits but you are still craving a friend. Don't do it you will be sorry, next time grow a friendship first and then make your arrangements....Some men seriously think with the wrong head...
Luck to you Vee.
2006-11-19 17:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by VANESSA F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the matter with you. God gave you a mouth use it. 2ndly why you let this shrimp bucket come over and just say a few words and you follow his lead and let him do what he wants to you. are you that hard up whats making you act this way.
Speak up GIRL! and have some respect for yourself honey. If you don't .. dont' expect him to.
You gotta get some back bone in you my dear.
2006-11-19 18:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing with fWB is they forget to tell you the friends part isn't included......what you are is a f*** buddy with no strings attached. run as far away from this situation as possible. tell the kind gentleman that unless he is prepared to give you more than you properly deserve you have no interest in continuing this arrangement. this is what any self-respecting female should do. trust me...it took me some time to figure this one out on my own.
2006-11-19 17:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even remotely have any self respect!!!!!!!!!!!
Why would he want anything more from you that what he has already received. You are very young or inexperienced, or just plain silly At least try becoming friends first next time you meet someone
2006-11-19 17:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by christine s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he gets most of the perks. Tell him you are not a sex toy and that you need more of a companionship from him, be prepared to walk away if he can't give you that. Otherwise you should start charging him and at least get something out of it for you.
2006-11-19 17:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are sex buddies - you aren't dating, aren't friends, but you have a sexual relationship. He may want more, he may not, the only way to find out is to ask.
2006-11-19 17:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with bennifits is a bullshit term to make a people too imature for a real realationship feel better about themselves
2006-11-19 17:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by irishthunda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does it make you feel because he is using you and if you're not using him back then don't let it happen anymore.
2006-11-19 17:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋