we have a 17yr old daughter that wil not talk to us about anything she thinks her father is her problem?

Question

she is very rude to her mother and dont like to tell us where she is
she thinks the world revolves around her what should we do

Answer 1

All seventeen year olds are like that. If she doesn't let you know where she is, she shouldn't be aloud to leave the house. I would not give her cell phone unless she uses it to call and check in. I would never let her use the car or any other privilage unless she was more cooperative. She doesn't hate you, all seventeen year olds are self-centered and rude.

Answer 2

It's a little late but perhaps you should start by being her parents not her friends. What do you mean she is rude to her mother and don't like to tell you where she is going. Of course she thinks the world revolves around her - you taught her to be that way!

Get control - be a parent. She still lives in your home. Take away privileges, set boundaries. She will be better for it and she will love you more.

Please don't give think that it's to late - sure it should have been done when she was 1 years old but if you really love her you will take control of your home and your daughter.

Answer 3

Oh. I'm sorry. I am going thru the whole teen thing with my 15 year old. Its sad how yesterday they were sweet innocent little girls then today they are acting like cruel and selfish humans. Teen girls are especially hard to deal with sometimes. When ours is acting like this--I try to remember what a difficult time that part of my life was and it helps calm me some. Life is hard for teens. Not only does she have a million crazy hormones flowing thru her that she doesnt understand but she also has the pressures of life, and is probaly confused because her friends tell her that life is one way and parents think different so its going to cause her to rebel. All you can do is continue to love her, and at the same time let her know that even if life is getting harder for her---her behavior will not be tolerated.

Answer 4

Well she's 17 and no longer a child by any means so there is not much you can do if she does not want to talk. Let her know the only reason you'd like to know where she is is to be able to contact her in an emergency, say a family member ill or dying, etc., whatever you do, do not come accross as prying into her life or she will shut you out.

Answer 5

this is a difficult question. try to take previlages away from here. i wouldnt say respond to her in the same manner she does because her reaction might not be nice. try to give some negative feedback on her appearences, her attitude, make her feel less than what she feels about her self. I think she might have a bit of ego problem at this. she needs to be put back into reality. I wish you the best of luck. and hope someone can give better advice. someone who has gone through the same situation and did the right things to help thier daughter. goodlucj

Answer 6

Well im 15, I used to be in public school. Its really hard to deal with all of the peer presure and what is cool and what is expected of you. I never felt like my mom could ever relate to what I was dealing with. So I never talked to her. I didnt see any point in it.

Give her some time just tell her that every one deals with what she is going through. Some worse than others. Just tell here that you are there for her and love her no matter what. And be sure that she know that its okay to make mistakes everyone does.

Answer 7

I think that you need to stop putting pressure on her to tell you every little thing. When I was 17 my father was my problem. He didn't keep his promises to me, he was rude to ME, he said he was listening but he really wasn't. I think you need to take that into consideration. My mother as well. She did the same thing. When teens talk many times parents don't really hear the words that their kid is saying. They may say something, but really they're trying to tell you something else without having to come out and tell you exactly what that something is. And that is where the lines of communication get crossed between kids and parents. I'm not saying that you shouldn't have discipline because there is a time for that. But I think that her father and her mother need to evaluate their own boundries with their daughter as well. She needs her own space just as much as you need yours. You would get ticked off if someone asked you where you were going to be all the time. Many times I find that the parents who do this to their kids don't know how good their kids really are. They just mistake them for rebellious teenagers and then they react out of that, and then it just makes it worse.
I would evaluate where your boundries are at and then live them out with your daughter. Live what you say to your daughter. If you want her to do something, live it out yourself. I'm not saying rules, just give her a little space, because she's probably a really good kid.

Answer 8

Sounds like your average 17 year old. Sorry that probably doesn't help. Don't take her attitude too personally. Try to give her space as much as possible, and just be there for her. When she's ready to talk, she will. It's a stage she will grow out of. Good luck!

Answer 9

kick her out or make her pay rent to stay there that will show her how rough the real world is like without your help. Be her land lord. Or take her to psychologist to find out what her problem is maybe she will talk to the doctor about her problems.

Answer 10

in this age girls do behave like this.... they feel they know everything better and whatever they do is right....... try talking to her or her friends in general without her notice. if this wont work leave her alone, but for you just have a look if there is some other reason for this behavior