I was with this guy Michael for 2 yrs,I'm 21.While we were together he was the most amazing boyfriend any girl could have asked for.While we were together he was sweet, gentle, thoughful, protective, loyal, funny,affectionate and incredibly attentive.I was so stupid and never appreciated him.I would ignore him for days at a time,not return his calls when I was moody,tell him off for the stupidest things just because I was in a bad mood and was generally very dismissive and bitchy towards him while we were together even thought he was always there for me.He broke-up with me 3 months ago and I didn't realize until he started dating someone new 2 weeks ago just what I lost.It hurts to see him look at her the way he used to look at me,to see him hold her hand and make her smile.I want him back so badly and I know he still loves me because a mutual friend told me he still keeps picture of us in his wallet.How do I get him back?
2006-11-19 17:01:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, have you talked to him? see if you have another chance? but if agreeable do you think you would change or go back to treating him the way you did before? these are things to be issued. you gave him 3 months to get over you. you should have realized what you lost when you lost him. not returning his phones calls. How do you think that him feel? He seemed to be trying for someone he loved and the person didnt want it. Please think about this 3 months have passed and now he is dating someone and you want him back. how selfish. if things dont work with him and her, maybe he will go back to you. But dont let them break up because you inteferred. If loves is true, you both will be back together. and maybe just maybe you will treat him with love. goodluck.
2006-11-19 17:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Olga 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by telling him in a little note with a rose. Give him something to see that you were a ***** to him that will show him that you have really changed.Little things showhow someone feels. You don't have to put a name on the note. He will see deep down in his heart who it is from. Start showing him that you have truely changed and that you iss him. You better get on the ball. You can do it if you really want him back.Bring up happy times that you two had. Ask himto meet you agter school for a cokefloat or something. Think very hard. Change your style of cloths that he will notice. Dress very cute and popular. Just try really hard but don't push him away. Good luck.
2006-11-20 01:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by writing him a letter. Be very honest and sincere the way you were in here and apologize as specifically as you can for your actions. Make sure he knows that you made a promise to yourself to do everything in your power to not treat people this way again.
Also, thank him for everything he did do for you, be specific. You want to make sure you communicate that you are writing this letter to make things right, not necessarily with any agenda to get him back...you HAVE to mean this though, so make sure you'll feel good about sending the letter regardless of his response.
Last, if you do meet up with him again, do everything in your power to empathize, empathize empathize. See things from his point of view, agree with and validate his feelings, show that you care. No more fighting and being disagreeable!!! Thats what drove him away in the first place.
Be fun, be happy, be positive and cheerful. Don't be fake. (these last two sentences might sound contradictory, but if you can make it so they're not, you're golden)
Good luck!
2006-11-20 01:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am at this crossroads w/ my gf right now. Al I can tell you is this: if she chooses to be w/ me, I will let all of this go, be a past that we build upon b/c we will have to talk it out to get beyond her distance lately. If she chooses it's not worth it to her (and I have even suggested she date other people if she wants already) I will do everything I can to erase her from my memory. No friends, no more attention. She gets it all or none of it. If nothing else, never forget the pain lest you repeat it.
2006-11-20 01:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on if you wanna be a ***** or not if you do set her up if you dont just go to him you will feel bad belive me but go to him in private and apoligize for being that way and tell him the truth that you still love him and a whole lot more if he wants you he will come to you if not then he wont
2006-11-20 01:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by wesleydoyle2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU JUST NEED TO LEARN FROM THIIS . SOMETIME IT TAKE
LOSEING SOMEONE TO REALISE THAT WHEN THEY GONE
HOW MUCH THEY MEANT TO YOU. BUT SINCE HE HAS MOVE
ON, IT MAY BETTER TO LEAVE IT IN THE PAST, AND DONT
MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE THE NEXT TIME AROUND. JUST
BECAUSE HE HAS YOUR PICUTURE DOES NOT MEAN
THAT HE WANT TO GET BACK WITH YOU.
2006-11-20 01:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why you treat him like this in the beginning ? OK , if he is meant for you , he will come back , if not , forget him .
2006-11-20 01:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by tay i 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Poor guy...I think your friend was just keeping your hopes up... live the guy alone he diserve to be happy...
2006-11-20 01:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jealousy is not a reason to try to steal someone away from another...when he was there, you weren't interested. let him find someone who likes him for himself and find someone you respect.
2006-11-20 01:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have treated him better, after all that I don't know if you can get him back.
2006-11-20 01:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋