I have done some things I'm not so proud of to get rid of some of them. Im afraid if he catches me it will destroy our relationship. How to deal with this?
2006-11-19 16:53:09 · 7 answers · asked by amber n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*** why would u WANT a guy who doesn't respect your feelings enuf to do something about it FOR u?
2006-11-19 16:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, you're not being jealous, you're being human. He shouldn't have girls all over him and you shouldn't have to actively do things to get rid of them. I went through the same thing with my fiance and guess what? Surprise, surprise, he was cheating so you might want to leave him and find someone that doesn't put you through this heartache. It will start to get to you and it might have a negative effect on your future relationships if it goes on for too long. If you want to work things out I hope that he'll realize that his actions are inappropriate for a man who's about to be married. Best of luck!
2006-11-19 17:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by racylips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was just working with other girls and you were jealous that would be a problem with you.
If he has "girls all over him" and you're feeling jealous that is a problem with him - not you. It is supposed to be his job to make sure girls aren't "all over him".
You should just be straight with him, tell him you think he should make sure they don't get all over him (and he can do that if he wants to) - and if he still lets it go on then dump him. He either cares about you or doesn't, and if he does he won't want other girls all over him. If he does he won't get any kick out of upsetting you.
You are doing exactly what battered wives sometimes do - seeing yourself and your jealous feelings as the problem, rather than seeing his behavior as the problem.
You say he's your "finance" - that means he shouldn't have other girls all over him. Nobody is saying he should never talk to other girls or women, but we all know the difference between talking and having them "all over him".
I'm not a big fan of jealousy, but in this case you have a right to yours and a right to think he needs to knock it off.
2006-11-19 17:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's your man why is it he has girls all over him?? whats wrong with you and what the heck kind of guy would do that if he gonna marry you.. maybe you should think about this. its onlt making you look bad, not him... he's a flirt get rid of him, or stand your ground and talk to the cad.
2006-11-19 16:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE SOME ISSUES THAT YOU NEED
TO ADDRESS , HE HAS COMMITED TO YOU , YOU ARE THE
ONE THAT HE ASK TO MARRY. BUT IF YOU HAVE DOUBTS
THEN TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS BUT DONT DO THINGS THAT
WILL CAUSE PROBLEMS. YOU WILL LOSE HIM FOR SURE.
SO GET EVERYTHING OUT IN THE OPEN. NOW BEFORE
THINGS GET TO OUT OF HAND.
2006-11-19 17:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be jealous. It's a sign of insanity.
2006-11-19 16:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by OnTheCoast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do more things to satisfy him, and get his attention. B.A.M.N.
2006-11-19 16:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tar Heel 4 Life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋