Would you seriously be truly offended if one of your BEST friends secretly thought you were a lesbian and later found out about it? Offended enough to stop talking to them. And want them out of your life for good? Rememeber you guys were like family.
2006-11-19 16:51:08 · 17 answers · asked by Licha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No. As long as they weren't being offensive in what they said when gossiping to others about what they believed my sexuality to be. Most of my Friends are pretty straight shooters. We try to not gossip over much about things concerning the group. We tend to circle the wagons. if she or he WERE malicious in their commentary, I would be offended by the way they talked. Not by what they said. And no...I'm not gay. I'm Italian and Irish. Very passionate people. We do alot of hugging. Way touchy feely races of people I come from. Could be mis-construed. I've had a number of gay woman come on to me. lol I take it as compliment, but don't take them up on the offer. :)
2006-11-19 18:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by G D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some of the readers here, I'm surprised that they aren't offended at all by thier responses.
However, I do not think that any assumptions made about me should be taken seriously , NOT untill if I found out from thier own words. I guess some part of me will feel betrayed by someone close to me to make such assumptions instead of asking / finding out from myself , in this case is you.
Times like these requires confrontations, which I think many of you here might shy away or hated it, but I think ....If you felt the relationship is worth the save and you do not wish such stupid assumptions to break it off, then these confrontations are worth it.
IF not, I wouldn't waste my time, you and I know better that friends are people whom we rely our trust in times of need.
In this case, nobody would be a better judge other than yourself.
2006-11-20 01:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I do not think being a lesbian is an offensive thing. I would simply advise her that I am straight. Only a very homophobic person would be offended. What an utterly stupid reason to cut off a very dear friend.
2006-11-20 01:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not clear on how someone "secretly", and then "found out about it" goes together. Found out about what? If you are a lesbian, and someone was already thinking it, then where is the problem? If doesn't sound like the two you were as close as you thought.
2006-11-20 08:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would be very offended. If my friend did that and i knew her or him and i was like that i would That meant they were not my real friend and yeah then i would really not want to be friends with them and that would hurt me deeply. That is rude of your friend to do that to you. I do not agree with homosexually but i just found out that my friend was a lesibean but that did not change my feeling towards her one bit she was still my Best friend and she was the same person she always has been i would never ditch her just bc she is the way she is. Then i would not be a good friend or a real friend to her.
2006-11-20 04:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be offended that she thought I was gay but I would be offended that she would rather just make an assumption as opposed to coming to talk to me to find out if I was or not. It makes me think she would have a problem if I was or that I would be ashamed if it were true and that in itself would impact our relationship.
2006-11-20 01:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be mad? That's funny. Some of my friends think I'm a repressed homosexual. Let them think what they want. If it isn't true who cares? If it is true then you have a friend that knows you pretty well - and that's usually a good thing. Don't ruin the friendship - he/she wasn't trying to hurt your feelings - that's just what they thought.
2006-11-20 12:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't be offended and this would definitely not be a reason for me to stop talking to them. I'd be surprised, because I would expected them to know me better, but I wouldn't be offended.
2006-11-20 04:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would go as far as to not talk to them anymore. Thats a lil extreme. Being a lesbian, or someone thinking you were...really isn't a big deal. I personally would probably laugh about it!!
2006-11-20 00:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by swtdee32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset that my so called BEST friend didnt know me.
Hence she wouldnt be my Best friend any more.
Friends i dont see a problem with .. But not best.. not if she thinks i am not who i say i am.
I might keep my distance for a while.. I am like that ... take a while for the wounds to heal.
2006-11-20 01:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋