I'm 16 and she's 15, we've been together for 9 months or so and I've heard of the idea of promise rings. They sound sweet and romantic, and seem to symbolize exactly how I feel for her. I know we're young though it sounds something that young people do. My question though is how does one go about getting a promise ring. I mean do I buy a matching pair, do we exchange rings, do I give her a ring alone? Also what do girls like in a ring, I wish I know more but I'm so lost on the idea it's scarry but at the same time it feels like the perfect thing to get her for christmas. I love her so much and just want to do this right but I need some kind of advice.
2006-11-19
16:39:15
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It's not that I promise to marry her or anything like that, but this girl is my first love and I know I cant promise things like forever-eternity and marriage. But the thing is if I could I would and I wish to offer this to her as symbol of how much she truly means to me. I understand that everyone has their own ideas of this ring but the one forged in my mind is that it is to show that I'm in love with her and that she means alot to me at this point in my life and even when our thing is done I'll still love her because she showed me first love and it's something I won't forget.
2006-11-19
16:56:02 ·
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there are two different kinds of promise rings.....from what i understand. one kind is a promise not to have sex until you're married (sounds dumb, but if i could take it back...you save yourself so much trouble that way)...and the other kind is the one that you are "promising" to be engaged one day.
you dont need to go all out on this thing. maybe a simple silver band with an engraving on the inside, which doesn't cost that much. she'll know exactly how you feel, and youll get your point across to her. i know when i was 16 i didnt have much money to spare. SHE'LL LOVE IT
2006-11-19 16:44:23
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answered by Anonymous
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a promise ring is a prelude to an engagement ring. You could very possibly scare her off....after the initial excitement of receiving the ring. You don't buy a matching pair, it is almost like an engagement ring, but smaller. I'm saying this from experience, I received a promise ring when i was 16. I liked the fact that it was pretty and that he spent that much money on me and i could tell all my friends, and make my parents a bit nervous, but deep down, it scared me. I loved him, and i know he loved me, too. But it was always in the back of my head 'why' . Because he wanted other guys to see it on my finger and know that i'm 'taken', or to reassure himself that I won't leave, or just becuase he loved me. But it might scare her into thinking that "oh my gosh, he wants to get married right away" and if she has plans for college or traveling it may be a bit of a threat. I would really think it over. I think that you could get her a different 'kind' of ring and it would have just as much meaning to her, but without the pressure. A nice birthstone ring (or one with both of your birthstones together) or a pretty opal or pearl ring would be really nice. And it might even open up the door with her for the talk of getting her a promise ring some day and see how she feels about it. Good Luck, I wish you both well....oh btw....i still have my promise ring...married the guy who gave it to me, and divorced him 3 years later because i began to do the things that i had always wanted to do for 'me',but didn't do because I lost who "I" was in trying so hard to be a loyal "we". It is a very nice gesture, but it also puts a lot of pressure on the girl to put all focus into the relationship and not other things she may want to do in life.
2006-11-20 01:01:12
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answered by Deanna 1
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a promise ring is of the ilk of a pre engagment ring (or a going steady ring). the "ideal" one is a small diamond, an eternity ring (three small diamonds) or one of those rings where there are four small diamonds set together to make the appearance of a bigger one. however, you should also take into account what she likes. if her favorite color is blue, get her a blue stone. If she likes old fashioned rings, get her a claddagh holding a heart (also a very popular, very good choice). You don't need to have matching rings or anything, but if you're that serious you might want to let her know you'd be up to wearing a band if she decides to buy one.
expect a LOT of backlash, esp from your parents, esp if you're not very religious or from a family that has a history of marrying young, etc. also note that while it ISN'T a vow of marriage, offering a girl a ring is serious business.
also, check out moissanite. it's affordable and has a lot of sparkle. make sure she knows it's moissanite though (it's a synthetic material created from a material they found in a comet)
good luck
2006-11-20 00:46:30
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answered by smm 6
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a promise ring is like a pre engagement ring. You are promising to marry her. Is this really the road you want to go down? Awful young to go that route. I just wanted to have fun when i was 16. If it's a christmas gift you are looking for look for a necklace, bracelet or earings. A promise ring is a very big commitment. A promise ring is a diamond!!!
2006-11-20 00:45:02
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answered by ? 2
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She is the only one who gets a ring no matching pair (that's when you get married and you both are WAY too young) A promise ring is usually a small diamond. I agree with you when you say you're young. frankly too young for a "promise" ring and what it actually means. I suggest just sticking with being just friends until you both are old enough for anything more.
2006-11-20 00:43:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Aww, that's just so sweet! She'll love it! :)
My friend was just given a promise ring from her boyfriend. It was just a single ring, that he gave from him to her, so don't worry about getting a matching one or exchanging or anything. Just from you to her.
The one my friend got was quite simple, and she loved it, it was just a silver square band with diamonds all around it. It cost him $500, so that's probably too pricey for you. Keep it simple. I'm sure it'll mean a lot to her regardless of how fancy it is.
Have fun, she's going to really love it!!
2006-11-20 00:44:46
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answered by koala988 2
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usually the guy gives the girl the promise ring and i think traditionally it is a diamond...kind of like an engagement ring...i believe that is the purpose of promise rings...eventually one day you "promise" to marry her...but you don't have to be traditional. think outside the box...how about a ring with your birthstone or something like that...or even a ring with her fave stone...
2006-11-20 00:42:39
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answered by living_dead_sandra 3
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You are a bit young to be promising anything...
how about a set of matching necklaces?
2006-11-20 00:42:35
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answered by zmj 4
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Don't you think she might be too young for that yet? How about really fab earrings or necklace. I don't know about the ring thing.
2006-11-20 00:42:49
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answered by bluebustercyndy 2
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u should give it to her alone
it could be a ring, earrings necklace or bracelet
girls love this stuff :]
2006-11-20 00:41:18
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answered by xshinylishuss 1
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