Would someone attractive ever be interested in someone unnattractive?

Question

I'm really confused about life. I don't know who to be interested in, and where I stand with men.

Help, before I drive myself nuts, here.

I consider myself to be a "Plain Jane" 5'5, 110 lbs, not the perfect body whatsoever, breasts that are less than half of an A-Cup, and I don't think I'm very pretty.
Would an extremely attractive man be interested in me? There is a gorgeous man who I know, yet I never hit on him or flirt with him, because I think I would be kidding myself if I ever did. Why would he like me, when there are about a million prettier girls out there?

Also, there is another guy I know, who isn't conventionally attractive, whatsoever, yet I find myself drawn to him. Is this just me subconsciously going after someone I know I could "get?" I'm completely at ease around him, and have no problems flirting and touching him in a joking way, etc.

Explain to me what makes certain people attracted to certain people, and how someone "gorgeous" would feel if they were with someone who wasn't all that attractive.

I have other stories to share, mainly about how the "pretty boys" at work, who are my age ignore me, but I don't want to make this question too long... Please. Help.

To those who keeps saying that inner beauty counts most:
I believe that, I really do, but it's just so hard when there are so many people treating me like dirt, just beacause I'm not a busty, tan, skank like the other girls at work...
It breaks my heart, that they don't even care to get to know me, just because they know they're attractive, and they don't think I am.
I know they aren't worth my time, but it still hurts... and it all confuses me. How can people be so evil? I don't judge people by their looks, why does everyone else?

Answer 1

As other people said, looks aren't the only things that matter. In fact, confidence and attractive personalities are just as, if not more, important when it comes to getting the right guy. I know so many girls who are more than just plain but somehow, they are able to attract a lot more boys than the prettier girls. The reason for this is that these girls who make look "plain" to me think that they are much prettier. This makes the guys believe that they really are beautiful. Good looks don't guarantee getting noticed so if you want to attract guys like the "gorgeous man" you are talking about, you need to stop thinking that you are ugly and unworthy of him. I guarantee that there are things about your personality that make you unique from others and compensate for your plain looks. I don't think that your insecurities make the other guy attractive but I do think that you are unjustly limiting yourself to guys who you don't consider handsome. You should never feel as if you can't go out with someone just because he is handsome or think that you should only go out with people who aren't. You have to be open-minded. Since you don't want people to judge you based on looks, why shouldn't you do the same?

Answer 2

You're thin. Very thin, judging by your weight versus your height. So count your blessings, because you're lucky. If you were fat and ugly there would be a real problem here. I do not mean that in an offensive way...Girls can be fat and pretty. But if you're fat AND ugly, well, you're screwed. Besides, men don't usually care as much about big breasts as you'd like to think. A handfull is good enough for them. I have huge breasts, so I always seem to attract the type that likes bigger chests, but my smaller-chested friends find guys that prefer smaller breasts. So don't even worry about that. It's not a big deal at all.

Furthermore, you're NOT ugly, you're plain. Plain is easy as pie to fix. Go to a salon that girls with a similar hair texture to yours are coming out with great styles (this is important. don't just randomly choose someone to do your hair) and have the hair stylist give you a cut and style to compliment your face shape. You know, bangs for a high forhead (but not thick! those are very elementary school), layers for thin hair, high lights for hair with no depth, etc. Then, get a makeup consultation at Macy's or some other place that does it in your area. Learn how to apply makeup the RIGHT way. Now you've got the hair, face, and body. Plain no more, my dear. The last thing you need is clothes that flatter. Do NOT follow trends, because trends die. Find pieces that flatter your body. Skinny jeans give girls with little hips more of an hourglass shape. Wearing a scooped neckline makes your breasts look bigger, etc. You don't HAVE to be plain! Just stand out! At least you're not ugly, right?

Finally, yes, I've seen plenty of gorgeous guys with plain looking or even ugly women. They were all skinny chicks, though...I don't mean to be harsh but since you're skinny, well, this wont hurt you one bit. I've only seen one or two fat girls with good looking guys. So, like I said, be grateful you're thin and average height! Tall girls have it harder than short ones, but short girls don't have the nice, long legs! Work with what you have, babe.

Answer 3

First of all, you wouldn't want to be a person who was just interested in looks. Yes, we are all drawn to the attractive ones, but usually they end up really shallow or with an ugly personality in the end. I've noticed in my dating history that the "friends" are the best ones in the end. If I can't feel at ease with a person while just doing nothing then whats the point in being with them at all? My son's father, I wasn't attracted to him at first but the more I got to know him as a person the more attractive he became in my eye's. When he gave me a son, nothing could match him, our souls melted to create this perfect little person. I wish you luck in you journey.

Answer 4

People consider me attractive. I get complimented all the time, people tell me I should model, etc. However, I'm nuts over a guy who short, chubby, quirky yet he wants nothing to do with me. I'm sorry; you seem really confused. But attraction, love, and relationships can't really be explained. It hurts and it's unfair, but that's life.

Answer 5

Beauty is in the eye of the the beholder. Would love to receive your picture to make a good judgement, but if you are beautiful from the inside out you are perfect.

Answer 6

ppl arent always attracted by apperences. I know ive dated some not to attractive guys. but...who had the best personalties! It all depends. but i do know what you mean bout talking to a good looking guy and being like "what am i thinking" just go for it...what do you have to lose. and if hes not instrested then its his lose. right?


Good luck. and go for WHOEVER you want to. you can do ti<333

Answer 7

Of course!

There is more to a relationship than just looks.

Love happens unexpectedly; never when people try hard to find it or push it. You'll learn.

Answer 8

There are plenty ugly/cute couples. It was the inner qualities that made them be together.

Answer 9

I like "Plain Jane's"