and it gets better and then some days it goes back to the same thing is this grounds for breaking up? the main things me and my bf have problems with have been lusting , lieing, financial, and quality time. we have been going thru this for 2 years. everytime i think we have something solved he does one of these things again. i really love him and i want to marry him but he keeps doing these things that cause me to have to sit down with him and tell him how i feel. he acts like he understands but then he turns around and does it again. what do i do. we have dated for 2 yrs. i feel as if i missing out on beeing happy if i cant be secure with him. i really dont know what to do. i break up with him hoping that would help but it never does. it helps for a little while but over all really nothing has changed. i really need some strong advice. and leaving him is not so easy cuz ive been around him so long.
2006-11-19 16:28:12 · 6 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, I'm not saying this to hurt you. I'm saying this because I want you to see the truth behind guys like this. As much as he loves you and as long as you have been with him, you are not powerful enough to make him change, obviously. If he's going to change, he's going to change because he wants to change for himself. It's clear that he doesn't want to change. And you keep taking him back, so why should he change? I know you feel you've lost out on two years with him but think of how much more time you'll lose out by staying with him. Some man wants to date you and marry you and won't do these things to you. You won't find this guy if you stay with your current boyfriend. Live and learn. Dump your boyfriend and find someone who respects you. It'll be hard, but in the end, it'll be the best thing you'll ever do. Trust me.
2006-11-19 16:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, being able to trust someone is the most important part of a relationship. Ask yourself if you are both being clear in what you agree upon in discussions. If he is breaking promises, then that is very hard to change. If that is the case, if you really don't want to break up, try counseling. However, if he keeps on breaking promises, then I'm afraid you would be better off without him. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-20 00:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are seeing is the real man and he is not ever going to change, and he is hopping that you will overlook all his flaws and marry him because he knows that he can get away with it again and again with only you having a little talk to listen to . not a bad deal in his mind. So take warning and deal with him right now, he will NOT change
2006-11-20 00:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds a lil like me... well for me i have to tell him not to do it again because it really upsets me n that i love him so much n it really hurts me to c him doing the things i do not want him to do... when eva we argue he always goes of somwher n i try my best not to call him nor txt him... i remind myself wat i would b like if i choose to be with him... i can neva make up my mind... when im mad at him i say i dnt want him n it is not worth it being with him but when i am happy with him i say to myself "going through bad times with him is worth it. n that i love him i think we r on the same line here... if u need anyhelp email me at cxc_mami@yahoo.com
2006-11-20 00:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change, stop wasting time repeating yourself. The dude ain't listening honey.
2006-11-20 00:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to fix him.
It's hard to move on, but things aren't likely to change.
2006-11-20 00:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋