My cousin just had a baby and the whole family has gone crazy. I am engaged, in college...ya know that whole thing and my family has been bringing up for ME to have a baby...and they can't wait and so on. I recently bought a mini-SUV and now people are saying I bought it because it's a family vehicle. LOL..my fiance and I definately want kids...especially not to long after we're married...we are family people....but now I really think I'm pregnant. I feel like I'm going to be criticized because after all that crap about me having a baby...its like I got pregnant on purpose b/c of my family. I don't want everyone to think I was actually listening to them and got pregnant for them???? This is confusing and Im sorry...but I need to know how to deal if I really am pregnant. Also my other cousins are pretty far along in their pregnancies...and I feel like Im just falling in line and it isnt special.
2006-11-19 16:11:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Every baby is special. Quit sweating the little stuff.
2006-11-19 16:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by jare bare 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. My Husband and I were considering having children but didn't want to tell anyone because we wanted it to be our choice not everyone elses. Well the family kept on and on about us having kids.(We have been married for 3 and 1/2 years) Then I found out I was pregnant too. I was the same way. We made the decision and not them! Even if they don't know that I do and that is all that matters to me. And you know what, your pregnancy will be very special, even though there are other babies that will be before yours. I'm sure your family will be overjoyed at the thought of you having a baby. I hope everything goes well!
2006-11-20 00:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I waited till the first trimester was over before we told our family (just in case the worst happened). I bet by then the baby craze will have subsided a bit and they can just be happy for you. Also if you cousins are far along by the time you give birth their little ones will be well past the tiny baby phase and everyone will be so excited to get that new baby fix again! Congrats if you are and just know that pregnant women can often get a pass on being short, so if anyone give you any crap just tell them what you think and blame it on the hormones! ; )
2006-11-20 00:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by CA Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to what everyone else says in the family... i am going through the same thing.. it's called the domino effect... my husband's sisters are popping out kids left and right... but i got pregnant and it was a surprise.. at first i didn't feel like it was special, but now that i know that i'm having a girl, and this is our last child (this will be number two) this is a blessing and noone should stand in the way of that for you and your fiance. good luck and i hope all goes well with you!
2006-11-20 00:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by nickstnblueangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, my husband comes from a large family and almost every month since I gave birth to our daughter (4 years ago) someone in the family has given birth, we are no expectin baby #3 & I am due the same month as 2 others. It is nothing to worry about, don't even feel the need to explain your pregnancy to anyone
2006-11-20 00:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once you find that the only thing that matters in life is what the truth is and how you partner feels. Life is so much better and you;ll be so much happier. If you are it's special and it will be what you make of it. More then likely they will all be happy for you.
let me tell you something if Fams the generations all start and end together that's how it happens. In my fam we had 3 babies in a row, then 4 then 2....life's a circle enjoy it if you are
BELL
2006-11-20 00:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl babies are blessing no matter when it happen. God wanted you to be pregnant now if you are. You're not pregnant b/c your family said something. Dont worry about them and go on being blessed with that little gift inside of you. When you find out if you are or not Congrats!
2006-11-20 00:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by free25in05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, there are far more things to worry about than worrying what the relatives will say. Don't worry about it and have a happy pregnancy. If they want to think that, let them. You know what is so and will have the last laugh.
2006-11-20 00:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you care about what others are thinking? The most important is that if you are ready to have a baby, then just be happy about it. If i were you, i would not be confused at all.
2006-11-20 00:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by hswee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand what you are asking.. but dang.. I think you should make sure you stop at 1 kid - the world is plenty full of confused people bringing up kids already
2006-11-20 00:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋