am i just an exception? I am a middle child I have an 2older brothers and 1oldersister 2 younger brother and 1younger sister. I hate it whenever someone tells me I'm experiencing the "middle child syndrome". It's like as if they know everything about being a middle child.
I felt like I was the blacksheep so to speak amongst the children. . Just that my parents thought I was so hard to get along with - at least that was what my mom used to tell me. That my siblings were easier to talk to. I felt too that I was the one assigned with the most chores. I did not get along well with my mom - we had frequent arguments - we just clashed. I know I can't say I wasn't loved or taken care of. But I knew I wasn't the favorite either.
I wasn't a mediator among us. Actually they used to gang up against me when we were little. I am an achiever, same as my other siblings. I tried to excel in whatever I did primarily because it felt good and it had effects on my future but not necessarily so my parents would take notice of me. I wouldn't say I'm a loner. I enjoy moments of solitude yet I also enjoy being around close friends and family.
2006-11-19 15:26:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a middle child myself, I can honestly say this isn't typical middle chlld syndrom. IT sounds more like you and your mother have some personal issues you need to work out. I have five children, and coming from a big family myself, and know all to well how the middle children get lost in the mix, I've learned to take extra special time with the middle ones just so they don't feel as I did growing up. However, the thing that sticks out with you is that there are other middle children in your family and they seem to get along with mom and dad rather well. So either you are completely head strong in trying to make your own space in the family, or you keep to yourself, mom needs to learn to realize that each of her children are different and have different needs. What I would suggest is just taking a day with mom by yourself and have some fun. Go shopping, take a walk in the park and bond. You need to do that..it seems that somewhere down the line, that bond was lost and the two of you need to rediscover it.
But to answer your question again...this is NOT middle child syndrome hon.
2006-11-19 15:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like middle child syndrome, but more like some personality conflicts between you & your mother. I am a middle child among 3 girls & it sure doesn't seem or sound like a middle child syndrome. The best thing I can say is to get a diplomatic person in your family involved to try to iron some differences you two are having.
2006-11-19 21:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly Pierce 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a trait of middle child syndrome to think you were so hard done by. That everyone picked on you and you had to do all the work. Thats why people say that! Stop acting like a victim and no one will say anything, and stop trying to prove things - it doesn't help.
2006-11-19 15:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry you feel that way....(I am a mom of grown children now)....I always tried to make each one feel equally loved and paid attention to. I was the oldest, and always got the lectures on what kind of example I should set, take your little sister with you, etc etc.....I have become the surrogate mother for all of my siblings, and that is hard too. So I know what it feels like to feel invisible, and your feelings not be considered....Don't you let it consume you though....You keep being a person who is caring, and continue your future plans, and do it to make you proud of yourself....Lots of people will be glad you did, the ones you surround yourself with that like you for just who you are.....!
2006-11-19 15:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
labels. gotta love them. i am the eldest of 6 kids and have always been told that i am bossy and been labelled negatively because i was an older child. this happens to every kid in every family and i'm sure your siblings have also experienced it. i choose to look at it as both positive - i am independent and negative - feel like i got no attention because i was older and could look after myself. it sounds to me like you are questioning your place in the family or maybe your life in general. i don't know if i would call it middle child syndrome but you are definitely having trouble dealing with you place/role in your family and your relationship with your family memebers. good luck and remember you are not alone.
2006-11-19 15:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Thanks for sharing.
2006-11-19 15:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by m'kay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes but don't feel alone i am too
2006-11-19 15:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by C.W. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋