There is this girl im thinking about asking out. She likes me alot and I feel the same way and it seems perfect except the fact that she has lots of friends that are guys. She doesntly necessarily like them that way but it when around her it still drives me crazy when she is hanging all over them. The other day I was trying to talk to her and her and this guy wouldnt stop flirting right ni front of me. Then in the same day i was talking to her again and she said she had to go to class, she starting holding hands and stuff with this guy as they walked to class. a different guy. even small stuff bugs me. I know girls dont like a jealous type so how will i ever keep a girlfriend? and what should I do about this girl?
2006-11-19 15:24:52 · 11 answers · asked by Supafly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, we arent dating, but we are really close. But im kinda looking at relationships in general too. Even if a girl doesnt hang out with guys much or isnt around them often, I would still feel jealous. I always have a paranoid feeling. Why am I constantly feeling like this?
2006-11-19 15:33:50 · update #1
I've got news for you; this girl would make a lousy girlfriend.
2006-11-19 15:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, maybe you can ask yourself a few questions.
1. What is the worst thing that can happen?
2. Are my fears real or are they imagined?
3. What are her feelings towards me? ...are the feelings mutual?
If you really think about it, you might be feeling jelous because you are really scared that you might lose her or you are insecure about yourself in some way. Find out also what your insecurities are if any and start to work on them by using some thought stopping techniques. Im sure if you google "thought stopping techniques" you will find a good source for more info. Hope this helps. I think you might just need to take care of your own thoughts and feelings and have a healthy relationship with yourself before you are able to have a healthy long lasting relationship with anyone else. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-19 23:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by cristabel80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty young, my first suggestion is if you have a problem with this girl in particular because she has too many friends that are guys is for you to FORGET HER..... remove yourself from the problem, or remove the problem from yourself.
Why torture yourself for something that is completely out of your control? What if it was the other way around and some girl liked you, but she saw you had lots of friends that are girls (do you?)
I suggest you either adopt the same program as this girl either for your own gratification or to make her jealous..... if that is even possible. Good Luck.
2006-11-20 00:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is holding hands with another boy in front of you, are you sure you two are dating? She sounds like she is playing around and isn't that serious about any one boy. Don't get too attached to her, it might not last long.
2006-11-19 23:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't the boyfriend, you have no reason to be jealous. Since you are already though, that is a red flag. Get help or find someone else.
2006-11-20 00:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't ever have one if you continue, look at it like this, if a women/man.. is going to mess around they will, and there ain't a thing you can do about it. So why worry, its unneeded stress on a relationship that is already stressed.
I AM
2006-11-19 23:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask her out, but if you do, don't expect her to say yes. If shes holding another guys hand in front of you, i would guess its to let you know shes not interested. sorry man :-( but don't get discouraged there our a lot of great girls out there.
2006-11-19 23:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by joe kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl is already involved with someone if she is holding hands with him. Move on, since you are not her boyfriend, it is not any of your business who she talks to or not.
2006-11-19 23:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very important but if you are not confident enough in your self you might not be ready for a relationship.
2006-11-19 23:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by techno_baby111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very insecure and that leads to jealousy. You need to talk to your counselor.
2006-11-19 23:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋