and I was recently offered a great position and have put in my 2 weeks notice. This co-worker has my home phone number and keeps making statements about how we are going to "keep in touch". (She has my phone number because I gave it to her before I knew how crazy she is! oops) How do I gradually send her the message that we are not friends without confronting her. I need to keep on good terms with her--my field is small and we have mutual friends. Please be realistic, thanks.
2006-11-19 15:23:44 · 12 answers · asked by RacW 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just passively ignore her. Don't answer phone calls and don't make any contact with her. After even as short as a month she will forget about you.
2006-11-19 15:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by pullinstuntssmokingblunts 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You asked for a realistic answer, so here it is.
Maybe she is genuinely nice. The problem I feel lies with you. Since you are bothered about your own reputation - 'Small field and mutual friends'. If you don't want her keeping in touch then tell her so. Stop being a hypocrite - it's not that you don't want to hurt her feelings, you just need to keep being on good terms with her, so years later if you have to work under her you can as though nothing ever happened.
She may be in need of a friend. Be good to her. I know all that I've written sounds rude but that is how I see it standing on the outside.
Remember she was good enough once for you to give her your number.
2006-11-19 15:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She might be crazy but if you need to stay on good terms, your best bet is to just go with the flow. Talk on the phone about work and keep conversations short. If she wants to meet up with her, be honest and say no, tell her that you already have other things on your agenda. Always stay professional and never lose your cool no matter how annoying she may get.
2006-11-19 17:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to say you don't want her to call without potentially hurting her feelings. The only thing you can do is not answer or return her calls. Eventually she will get the idea. Unless she's a stalker. Most of the time when people say that they are just trying to be nice - they really don't mean it. They are just smoothing out the awkwardness that sometimes goes with having to say goodbye.
2006-11-20 05:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gradually make yourself less and less available. If she catches you for a chat, keep it short. Maybe the next time tell her you would love to chat, but you really have to go. If she calls you at home, maybe take the call this time, but the next time state that your new job really is keeping you busy and you have to go. The trick is to withdraw slowly so that she doesn't realize that's what you are doing, but your goal will be to eventually eliminate her from your life.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 15:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had this same issue before and I agree that gradually decreasing your contact with her would be best. It won't hurt her feelings as much.
Is it just me or does anyone else think that "Paddy" sounds like he is taking this personal? Maybe HE is the annoying co-worker at his work...Ignore him, clearly you are a considerate person otherwise you wouldn't care how you got the message across to your co-worker!
2006-11-19 15:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by speakthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confident I easily have an annoying and often obnoxious coworker. This individual laughs so loud, I swear i can pay attention them when I come interior the returned door of our construction. they're very effective, besides the undeniable fact that they think of they be attentive to each little thing and experience they could do each and every thing for each individual in spite of if it is not their activity. I basically attempt to forget approximately it...luckily i do no longer could artwork w/the guy actual oftentimes.
2016-12-10 12:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tough, unless you want to change your phone number, or constantly have to screen phone calls....i would keep all conversations with her work-related....and if she mentions keeping in touch again i would say something like "i'll be so busy starting my new job and getting adjusted there...but i'm sure i'll see you around at the next gathering (of whatever field you're in)..."
i would think she'd get the point without hurt feelings
2006-11-20 05:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is what caller ID and answering machines are for. Be professionally courteous when you speak, have an excuse to get off the phone such as "someone is at the door" or "I have another call"
2006-11-21 05:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just by keeping conversation short and business like.
2006-11-19 15:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋