Well i have been talking to a 34 year old woman(im 20).. we met at a school event.. and we've hit it off so well since.. But although we are going to be together eventually.. what would you tell your son about dramatic age differences in relationships... ?
2006-11-19 15:18:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Erick,
let me say this to you. Age is something that measures time, nothing more. Spend good quality time with this person, don't let your emotions get the best of you, both of you need to talk about your concerns. Of course a woman of 34 is going to know more than you sexually, and this can be attractive to you. Because most women your age, aren't in touch with there feelings or even their bodies yet. Maybe they just got out of college or maybe still there, they aren't ready to settle down for a serious relationship and shouldn't. This could also apply to you, but if your mature enough, which that happens to some men, it did with my son, and he has a wonderful family now.
Communication,,,,,, it's that simple, the most important key in any relationship. Talk to this woman, find out what her goals are, and then see if you can makes things work. It's not going to be easy, but it can work with a lot of patients.
I do wish you both all the best, it would be nice to find someone, who I would consider spending the rest of my life with, and when God feels it's time, then it will happen... BUT, I am not going to force open in doors, WE all know what happens when you do that...
All the best to you Erick,
Curt
2006-11-19 15:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by caasos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my son or daughter for that matter, to never judge someone by age, looks, money, etc. If he was 18, he is an adult and can make his own decisions. I am 15 years younger than my husband, who I married last year. I only wish I could of known him 30 years ago so we'd have more time together. Age is just a number, it depends on the maturity level of the two people and how much they want it to work. Good luck to you.
2006-11-19 23:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tricky one cos both sides of the story are quite valid. 14 years is a big difference. My best mate is marrying a guy who is also 34 but she is only 19. They fight all the time, he acts like a parent to her etc etc. What your partners son may be concerned about is you taking the spot of his father. Put alot of emphasis on the fact that you love his mother very much (if u do) and tell him you would like to be friends. You may even find out you have similar interests!! You should tell him before he finds out another way though!!! Good Luck Dude!!
2006-11-19 23:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I'd wonder why a grown woman of 34 was interested in a boy of 20. I'd wonder what was wrong with her that she couldn't or wouldn't get a man her own age. Because a kid of 20 is nowhere near mature enough to be attractive to a normal 34 year old woman.
2006-11-19 23:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really isn't a good idea. If that is what you want to do go for it, but keep in mind that most likely it won't last and the younger one is the most likely to carry the brunt of the pain when breakup comes. The odds are pretty good that the younger one will be jerked around pretty hard.
2006-11-19 23:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by boogie2510 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number, unless your not legal yet. age shouldnt matter though. the feelings are what matters in a relationship. if you're with an older woman, good for you. older women are more mature, and know what they want. lol...i am 17. just tell him that if he is old enough, and he cares about someone older, it doesnt matter what everyone else thinks. everyone is a hypocrite. love has no limits.
2006-11-19 23:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by brittany_lyn_sutherland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was 40 and my father was 28... My mom simply put it that she was 12 years younger....that love didn't have an age...blah,blah,blah...really if you say the number of years that the age diff. is, the child doesn't think of it as a big deal, they will learn to analyze later...it'll be fine, promise. when my mom told me i hardly thought a thing about it except that there was a 12 years diff. kids don't analyze at that age, anyway.
2006-11-19 23:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's to say you can't date the person you wanna date? Both of you seem old enough to decide what you want to do. Enjoy the moment and let the pieces fall together. If it doesn't work then it doesn't work, but if it does, then :).
2006-11-19 23:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Iileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused... why were you at a school event? How old is your son?
2006-11-19 23:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Zach S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that at 20 you are very young. have fun and enjoy life.
2006-11-19 23:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by rosiejac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋