help i am not sure if my bf is using me coz wen i am at his house he tells me to take my top off and he takes pictures of me
but i dont feel that comfortable but i love him
wat should i do
2006-11-19 15:06:45 · 36 answers · asked by Alexandra G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T ALLOW HIM TO TAKE ANY NAKED PICS OF YOU !
you sound quite young, and if that is the case
this might not be your final b/f .......
have you taken into consideration what he might
do with those naked pics if you decided to dump him
at some point later on ??? ...... he could post
naked pics of you all over internet !!
2006-11-19 15:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not good at all. What is he doing with these pictures? They could appear online or anthing. You shouldn't be with someone like that at all. You shouldn't let him take pictures of you like that because they could end up anywhere.
Tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't understand well, then you know what to do. You should feel comfortable and you shoulding be abused like you are being right now.
There are 100s of guys out there. I don't know how old you are but you shouldn't go through this. Tell a girlfriend and talk to her about it. Think things through. If something makes you uncomfortable dont do it because you love him. Because he may have bad intentions. Take care of yourself first!
There are hundreds of guys. Tell someone and deal with it, its not good.
2006-11-19 15:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by tuskinini45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a guy is over sexual to you (wants videos, pictures for example) it doesn't mean he only wants you for sex. He is just acts on his sexual impulses and desires more because you allow it. He could be trying to spice up your relationship by trying something new as my guy told me when he asked me something that seemed out of line similar to this(read my previous questions). Have you told him you're uncomfortable? If you haven't have a discussion and discuss why this is bothering you. You're not into this kind of stuff it seems, so you have to decide after you talk to him whether he was genuine about what he said to you. If you tell him you're uncomfortable, and he tries pushing this issue again then that's when you'll know for sure whether he's in it for sexual pleasure or not. It would be a good idea to find out if he's the only one with the pictures and if he shared and ask other questions that may come to mind as what he's doing with them. Another clue as too figure out whether he's using you or not is how does he treat you when you're out, does he show his affection other ways to you other than sexual? Do you do stuff outside of hanging out at each others places? I've been through this with my man.
2006-11-19 15:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable, don't take it off! Seriously, tell him you care for him what not, but also let him know you don't like the pictures or the damands of stripping off your clothes. If this doesn't change things, dump him. You'll love someone else who'll treat you the way you want to be treated!
2006-11-19 15:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I wouldn't trust that. If your not comfortable with it, then don't let him do it. As a guy, I'll level with you. If you let him take pictures of you in that state, he will at the least be showing them to his friends. Possibly they'd end up posted all over the internet.
2006-11-19 15:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by snuffie222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is using you. If you are uncomfortable and u have told him, he must be considerate enough to cease his behaviour. Else, he is using you.
U shld speak to him and tell him how uncomfortable you are. And you deserve an answer on what he is doing wth those pictures of yours.
We evolve, we move on in relationships. What then? Can u bear to see your pictures misused - for blackmail or worse, wide distribution.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 15:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sushobhan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely uses you...actually, lets me re-phrase it. He is definitely trying to get some from you. If I were you, I'd try to run as fast as I can. I mean..really...haven't you heard enough of scam over internet? Don't you think you picture will be there someday? Or...don't you think he will share those with his buddies?
Girl, stay away from the guy.
2006-11-19 15:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. If he insists, then break up with him. He's using you and is a jerk. Be sure to get the pictures before leaving, though.
2006-11-19 15:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother should have taught you never to do anything you are uncomfortable with. How could you love anyone who wanted you to do this? Who knows where the pictures will turn up.
2006-11-19 15:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO Pictures! He can give them to anyone he wants or even post them on the internet...He sounds like a real jerk!
Be careful
2006-11-19 15:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by BRENDA 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋