My bf has his own house and he does not want to move in wiht me anytime soon, but we have been dating over 3 years and he lives 20 minutes away so its really hard for me to be apart from him cause I dont see him often...How do I make him want to live with me and show him that it could be a great thing for our relationship?
2006-11-19 15:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make him ?!? MAKE HIM? Sounds to me your forcing him to move in with you is pushing him away... I would run too. Far, far AWAY!
2006-11-19 15:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by wandering_canuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't make anybody do anything, especially a man. truthfully, you sound a little selfish. maybe he just isn't ready, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or anything. its a big step when you move in with somebody, i know from personal experience. you should start by asking him why he doesn't want you two to live together. a relationship is all about give and take. and 20 minutes doesn't seem far at all, do you guys not have transportation? because if the only reason why you want to live with him is because you don't get to see him that often then that is the wrong reason. because if you go from barely seeing eachother, to seeing eachother every day all the time it will be a disaster. so just work your way up to that type of committment. hope this helps...
2006-11-19 15:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tainted Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I read another posted question for you before... and I think you shouldnt consider this yet until you talk things throu... and you really know you 2 are in the same place in the relationship.
How to make him want to move in with you? I stayed over many days in my bf's place and we kinda realize how great could be to actually live together! so I think you could start by that... thou its kinda hard since you two live so close from eachother :-s
By the way I think you should just come clean with him and tell him all that bothers you and how you feel about him and how are you ready to move on with him... there's nothing better than a good conversation... and what do you know maybe he understands you and feel the same way and if he loves you and want to make things work I'm sure he'll do something about it.
2006-11-19 15:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has been with for quite a time and has a rather independent life. I don't know if you can make him want to live with you. It may be that he wants different things in life than you. I think you should both have a frank discussion about this and you have to decide what you really want and whether he is on the same page. If he really isn't, then you may be better off finding someone who is, hard as that might be. I hope everything works out well for you.
2006-11-19 15:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you move in with him if he has a house?
If he is not ready to commit after 3 years, then he is just getting the milk for free until something better comes along. He's just not that into you.
2006-11-19 15:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't make your boyfriend do anything. Tell him why you want him to live with and give him some space to make a decision. Don't pressure him or rush him into a decision because in the end it will just push him farther away.
2006-11-19 15:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Casandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is that if there is yet another answer? i assume he could detect a room someplace the place there are basically men... besides the undeniable fact that it is a discomfort. in case you tell him you will sell off him if he accepts that difficulty, then additionally he might have the main outstanding to ask you in looking a answer. nonetheless, the situation would be fairly ripe for dissimilar stuff to take place... so if I have been you, i may be there oftentimes to work out how are issues going.
2016-12-10 12:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he doesn't want to live with you? Maybe you could just stay over heaps & gradually work it up to every night? That's what I did, & after my boyfriend & I got back from our holiday he asked me to unpack all my things at his house! But if he doesn't want to live with you yet there's not much you can do really.
2006-11-19 15:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have to live with you? Could you not live with him? If he is not ready then it will not work. Trust me, been there, done that. You both have to be ready so that it will work out. Give him time. Make hints and show him that he needs you around to take care of him.
2006-11-19 15:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by little bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to live with you then don't force him, sounds like you won't last much longer anyway so don't bother asking about moving your stuff in cause it will be a big hassle removing it
2006-11-19 15:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by j3zZiKa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋