If a parent is inviting over friends to spend the night and might need to use a child's bedroom, should she/he let the kid know before the guest is invited (NOT FOR PERMISSION, JUST A HEADS UP)
2006-11-19 14:55:46 · 16 answers · asked by kleptomaniac3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes
2006-11-20 13:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, although the parents pay for the roof over their head, the child's room is his or her personal space and should be respected as such. It also considerate to the adults staying in the room, so they won't have to be interrupted by the child to gather things because the child will have plenty of time to do this beforehand
2006-11-19 17:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it shows that you respect the child as a person. If you expect your child to be respectful, considerate and respect others boundaries, you have to respect theirs.
I am not talking aobut asking permission or never "invading your child's privacy- it is your house and you have a right to knowing what goes on in your child's life, you make the rules and stand your ground regarding how things are run, BUT you still show common courtesy. Let him or her know, we are having guests, we will need to allow them to use your besroom, give him a chance to prepare and understand why. He will get a balance of understanding that it is your home and you are in charge of the order but that you respect him as a human being and respect his little space in your house.
2006-11-19 15:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let the child know.
Better yet, make him or her think it was their own idea to give up their room for the night. Something like "Aunt Jane is coming for Thanksgiving. Aren't you excited to see her? It's too bad we don't have a guest room - I wonder where she could sleep?" A younger child will be excited to pipe up and say "She can use my room!"
For an older child, let them know about a week ahead of time. "I think it would be nice to let Aunt Jane sleep in your room. I'll help you clean it and put new sheets on the bed if you'd like."
2006-11-19 15:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i was informed i would be bunking with my brother as quests took my room.
It got me to:
1. clean my room before they came.
2. Get what i needed for the next day so i wouldn't bother the guests.
3. Its showing respect.. if you want your child to give you respect back .. you have to show it respect too.
Its only a little thing.. but you can get big repercussions either way if you don't open up and share information.
2006-11-19 16:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it would be a good opportunity to set a good example for the child -- that example being that it's always polite and considerate to tell people about things ahead of time as much as possible.
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2006-11-19 15:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean family members, the kids should realize that Grandma and Grandpa or Aunt and Uncle or cousins are coming over. If the parents are inviting over other adult friends for some type of weird adult slumber party--that's just f'cked up and wrong...
2006-11-20 07:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should be involved with the planning. Remember, a night in a sleeping bag is fun for a young child. It's all in how it's presented to them.
2006-11-19 14:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Letting the kid know before hand is sweet, being polite. Great parents that will be. The kid will grow to respect you for that.
2006-11-19 21:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by TK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In fact they should turn down the friends telling them they do not have a guest room.
2006-11-19 21:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋