My boyfriend (whom I live with) has lots of friends. He goes a few times a week, and I'm trying to allow him his "Guy time" but it's hard because I don't have many girlfriends. I go to work, and on my days off I go to school. I don't have the social life he does, and sometimes it bothers me when he's out and I sit at home, doing homework and cleaning the house. I'm just so lonely sometimes, I try not to resent him cause he's not doing anything wrong...how do I deal??
2006-11-19 14:47:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is there something you are interested in? Do you have any time with that busy schedule?
If so get yourself out of the house and join a group or an activity that you enjoy. This way you will feel less lonely and you won't resent him as much.
2006-11-19 14:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are doing your best to not make such a big deal out of it. Tell your boyfriend that you have been feeling lonely. If you are worried that he will take it in a bad way or something like that, then try to make friends. Talk to some people you know at work or in classes and try to make friends with them. That way, you won't be as lonely.
2006-11-19 22:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem! My fiance lives 2 hours away from me and is working full time instead of going to school (for the moment). I go to school full time, have a job, and have rehearsals, so I don't have time for a social life. Whenever I have time to talk to him on the phone, it seems he's too busy with his friends!
I'm having a huge issue dealing with it myself. We argue about it all the time. He thinks I should go out more, but I literally have no time. All I can do is focus on my responsibilites and distract myself with them. I get lonely sometimes, but I just add a bit more effort to my work and immerse myself in it. It sucks, but I'm doing well in school and I don't think about him as much while I'm working.
Also, think about getting a pet if you don't have one. I have a cat, and she keeps me from getting too lonely. She's a good snuggly one, too!
Good luck. I feel for you!
2006-11-19 22:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) ask some nights to maybe hang with him or have the guys come to your house.
2) Join some sort of club or something
3) Go out at least one night of the week,socializing is the best thing right now
You can even socialize with the girls at school, have them come over for a study day or something.
2006-11-19 22:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by smartgrl_09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him this? i think if your basically happy with everything else you need to be happy with it the way it is. if its really bothering you to where your unhappy. be rid of him and find a man that is more like you thats wants to stay home.
as time passes and his friends marry him and his friends will not get together as often. age cures alot of your trouble.
if you dont have alot of friends now, you might not ever. and theres nothing at all wrong with that. if yall love each other i would stick it out. it will change
2006-11-19 22:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, u gotta tell him exactly what u told us... he may invite u to go out with him, if he does, then get to know all his friends... if he dont care bout what u say, then u go out yourself, find something u enjoy doing e.g art, music, yoga etc... u will definately make some friends... but if he dont care what u want, leave him! how do you know when he's out he's not doing nothing?
2006-11-19 22:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by pritina_jac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is stop thinking about it so much.....take the time alone and concentrate on your homework.....it will pay off in the end.
2006-11-19 22:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to occupy your time more. Read, get a dog, call your family, join a gym, or get a job.
2006-11-19 22:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by steffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make friends and make friends with his friends. invite them over to the house.
2006-11-19 22:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be included.
2006-11-19 23:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋