i told him i'm gonna wear white on my wedding day & a virgin until my wedding night he just doesnt get it my friend told me to break up with him but i think i'm in love but my other frien says that if i'm in love just 2 do it but i don't want 2 do eathier
2006-11-19 14:41:52 · 20 answers · asked by michelle b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have a serious talk and if he still insists then break up with him.
there are other guys who can respect your decision.
besides thing could get ugly if you stay with him. from pushy to abuser. he might do anything just to get it. and i mean anything, if you know what i mean.
take much care
2006-11-19 14:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by lostandconfused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question here isn't if you love him....it's if he loves you... If he really loved you he would want what's best for you and he wouldn't be trying to push you into a situation that you feel is not what you want right now.....Respect is an important part of love, it doesn't sound like he respects your decision ....there are about 3,000,000,000 men on the planet go find a good one there are a lot of "keepers" out there, you need to throw this one back,let him screw up someone elses life...... you said you want to wear white at your wedding you need a man that wants a bride that can wear white, the fella you've got isn't that guy....good luck
2006-11-19 22:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ron H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he'll wait. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's true. You may feel like you love him... but if he's not willing to respect you, then there's no possible way he can love YOU... regardless of how strongly you may feel about him. I think it's great of you for waiting and you should never let any boy ever convince you to change your mind. Believe me, they will try. But I promise there are guys out there who aren't all about sex. For now, sit down and talk with your boyfriend. Explain how serious you are about not having sex, and ask him up front if he's willing to respect that about you. If yes, then make sure you lay out very specific boundaries about how far you're willing to go so things don't get carried away. If no, then dump him fast before you get even more attatched and move onto someone who will.
2006-11-19 22:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you are in love? You can't get married thinking you are in love you have to be sure. Besides, the question is if he is in love with you or not. If he is, he will respect you and wait until you are ready; If he is not, then all he wants is sex and he will keep pushing and when you refuse he'll get angry (at least that is what my ex did). Stand strong and don't give in. If all he wants is sex, then he does not deserve you!
2006-11-19 23:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by smarties 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are going to have to break up with him, because if he keeps on being pushy and the more you say no, hes going to end up calling you frigid and breaking up with you anyway. I don't want to tell you how you should feel either, but never love someone that is forcing you to do something you aren't ready for. Because the more you think you are in love with him and the more he pressures you for sex its just going to make you snap. So break up with him and find someone that understands no.
2006-11-19 22:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to step off. Honestly. Tell him that if he really cared about you he would respect your wishes. If he doesn't respect you and what you really want, then he's not worth it!
And don't ever do something you don't want to do. To remain a virgin until marriage is very honourable, and if that's what you want to do then don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
If he keeps pushing you even after you tell him no, you really have to dump him. You'll find someone better who respects you and loves you enough to wait along with you :).
2006-11-19 22:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by koala988 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to respect your decision to wait. Let him know that you dont want to have sex point blank and period and if he cant respect that then leave him cause he doesnt want a sincere relationship with you he just wants to get some.
2006-11-19 22:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot wait to enjoy your virginity on the wedding night then tell him off. This guy is a "sick" man better to leave him because should he have sex with you then he will leave you, I'll bet you. Please treasure your body for a better man out there and this "sick" man need to be leave alone. Be very, very careful in dealing with this "sick" man. Take care !
2006-11-19 22:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Though you may love him, he doesn't appear to love YOU since he won't accept your decision. Do you really want to stay in a relationship, let alone love someone who could care less about your feelings? I say ditch him. He's an inconsiderate jerk.
2006-11-19 22:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You maybe in love but if hes really in love with you he would wait until you are ready. Stand strong girl.. dont give it up just because he wants you to!
2006-11-19 22:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by ksellers85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋