My husband to be has been offered his grandfathers wedding ring to wear....Although very flattered and touched by the offer, he wants to have his own sentimental ring to represent the start of our own family. He doesn't know how to tell his father that although he is very touched by the offer, and yes he would love to have the ring, but would like to have his own personal wedding ring....Any suggestions on how to accept and reject at the same time?
2006-11-19 14:32:10 · 9 answers · asked by JILL (Chicago) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is a great jesture and family heirloom. Accept the ring and wear it on the right ring finger. Wear the new wedding band on the left ring finger.
Just explain to the family that qustion you, if their are questions. Just explain like above states. That is a very special time for you and your wife and it would also mean alot to have grandfathers ring as well. So wear both rings. Every one will be happy.
2006-11-19 14:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there another gentleman in the family that would better appreciate the gift? If not, then perhaps your husband can accept the ring and wear it on his other hand. Then it is kept as an heirloom to be passed to your children in the future.
If his not taking it as his wedding ring would really hurt everyone's feelings, then he should just say that he would love to use it for his wedding ring, but he wouldn't want any harm to come of it from daily wear and tear. That way he can bring it out on special occasions and still have a ring that represents your marriage.
2006-11-19 14:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this is a toughie. I think he should offer to wear the ring on his right hand. Have him say that he would love the ring to show his connection with and love for his family, but feels it is important to have a separate wedding ring to symbolize the future of your family.
Good luck!
2006-11-19 14:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your guy explain to his dad that you two want rings that match or that are similiar in design, that it is very important to you and him that the rings are new and symbolizes the new union. But make sure your guy tell his dad that he loves the ring, and maybe will wear it on a different finger, and will pass it on to his son or grandson in the future so that it will stay in the family.
2006-11-19 14:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by deus82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance can still sccept the ring, and wear it around his neck. A lot of families have heirloom items, like rings, that they pass down regardless of whether or not the couple chooses to use that item. Get your fiance a strong chain and have him wear the ring around his neck. At least, that way, he will still be wearing it in a sense.
2006-11-20 00:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to turn it down completely. Perhaps another family member, a brother or a cousin, can be offered the grandfather's ring and would use it.
2006-11-20 02:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should explain things just as you have here. I'm sure his father will understand the reason he wants a new ring for a new marriage.
2006-11-19 14:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one can wear the ring on another finger.
even around the neck.
2006-11-19 14:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he could accept it and wear it on a different finger= or for special occassions! D
2006-11-19 14:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋