Is today's society chasing away good fathers, making men afraid to be Daddy? Is it really worth it to raise children in a single mother home if the father is a really good father? I am turning in a research paper Tuesday...what do you think?
2006-11-19 14:29:16 · 13 answers · asked by kmoc123 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, a real father is not disposable. A genetic donor is disposable, but not a father.
Society used to REQUIRE men to accept responsibility for the children they fathered, and if there was a question if the child was yours, it was a question that wasn't asked. If there was any chance you COULD be the father, a real man stepped up and took responsibility.
Of course, women are less inclined to require marriage prior to sex, so you can ask if the sense of responsibility has become less prevalent because of a decay of morals, or because women have become more in control of their own lives and no longer require a man to support them.
I think you could make a strong argument for either point.
If the man is a good father, then he should definitely be in the child's life. However, a "good father" is not necessarily a "good husband", and vice versa.
2006-11-19 14:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
But if he can be chased away then how good of a father could he be. Everyone needs a dad and they cant be replaced just like a mother cant. If he truly is a good father he will be in the childs life no matter what even if he is no longer with the mother he could still have visitation etc.
But a truly good father cannot be chased away
2006-11-19 14:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jaime T 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Regarding men and children, it seems the kids are more disposable than the men. Kids don't chase them away, they run away. Fear, responsibility, inability to express emotion or act as a good role model are a few sorry reasons they run. Extremely few single Moms would prefer if the Dad went away, just look at the sad state of the "child support" system! How many single mothers never see a dime of support? "Really good fathers" are involved, available and take their responsibility as a parent seriously. They happen to be good people in general and it shows in all aspects of their lives.
2006-11-19 15:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my wife, and I were new parents, we decided to go see a Child Development Professional, because we always seem to be in disagreement as to how to raise our son. One of the things that we learned that surprised both of us was that, especially in a boys development, the father is more important in the way a boy turns out, than the mother. Both ways; good father figure usually equals good young man. Bad father, usually the opposite.
Our son is now 16. Even though at times he is a typical teenage knucklehead, for the most part I feel that he will do okay...
2006-11-19 14:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fathers are not disposable. If the situation is that the father is a good father then there should be no reason for him not to be apart of the childs life. If the parents don't get along though and they move there seperate ways, I feel it is for the better because fighting parents can cause emotional wounds to a child that will never be able to be healed.
2006-11-19 14:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by tricksy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What societ are you talking about? Making men affraid of being daddy?
I dont know of any MAN who is affraid to be a daddy !
and I mean Man to the full extend of the word.
Having sex and getting a girl pregnant does not make a male a man.
I think that as the saying goes,,,"what starts of wrong will tun out wrong"
If things are done the way god wants....
getting to know your boyfreind, getting married, becomeing emotionally and financially stable, then having children...will make a more succesful and stable relationship between the couple and therefore make the man a man.
Accepting, commitment, obligations, responsibilities.
On the other hand,,,,you have a girl who wind up pregnant....tells her boyfreind...and the guy either marry's her or tell her to have an abortion....easy solutions...right?
well, if she has an abortion,,,the relationship is history...so therefore the girls think...now with a baby I am going to tie him down.
Well in reality, who ties who down'/
They have a shotgun wedding, unstable in every aspect....baby is born,,,,go on food stamps...leve with parents or relatives...guy is out with freind because he was not ready for a commitment...
eventually will leave the girl with the baby and move on and probably repeat the same cycle
why? because he now has baggage that will haunt him for the rest of his life...
as far as the girl goes....well....she is now a family pack
and not many men what other peoples baggage....so the girl will date men hoping to find mr. right
But mr, right will be hard to find because the next guy she meets will know he is a single mother, will have sex with her, and probalby get her pregant again
and history will repeat itself all over again...
and then you have guys with babies scattered all over.
So I hope this will answer your question....
If a relationship is trarted out correctly and followed in the sequence it should....it is less likely (no guarantee)to have these single moms.
2006-11-19 14:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by sandi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just think that fathers don't want to take responsibility for their actions. That is why there maybe so many young women out there that have a lot of kids by the same guy. I suppose it is just a game to them. There are some good single mothers out there, I just wish the boys would stop acting like that and grow up to be men and take responsibility for their children. So yes I agree with you.
2006-11-19 14:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by amber 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my dad was a great father 1 in a 10000000000000000000000000
he was a single parent raising 4 children (2 boys 2 girls)
by himself after my mum died. 19 years my dad devoted his life to us after my mum died sadly he passed away not having a life of his own.
i do know not all men r like him but there r some good ones so dont b too harsh on them.
2006-11-19 22:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by you are my angel 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe that if you pick a loser to get pregnant with then he will be a loser as a father... pick a good man, then you will find a good father for your child..... You can't blame society, it is a personal choice of the father on how good or bad he is going to be...
2006-11-19 14:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Fathers are not disposable objects. Why would you want to dispose of a person who loved you, cared for you, protected you, educated you, defended you, nursed you, feed you, provided shelter for you, consoled you and comforted you. A good father is a necessity.
2006-11-19 14:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋