I have been dating this wonderful guy for almost 3 months,he knew I had kids,he has none,and single friends who have none as well,he and his friends like to go out,but I can't because I do have children,therefore I feel bad,so I just sent him an e-mail breaking up with him,we met online,I know that I shouldnt have broken up with him like that,but I just couldn't face him,was I right to let him go for my reason?
2006-11-19 14:26:18 · 11 answers · asked by dimples1221 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
update,yes,I was very wrong,and if he actually loved me like he supposedly did,he would have forgiven me,I forgave him for giving out his number to someone he didnt even know,so why can't he forgive me,I didnt cheat on him,but I do believe given the chance he would have,I do love him,have tried to get him back,but to no avail,he is suppose to call me friday to let me know if he will take me back,we will see. Then again,maybe I don't need him,he has done things that have thrown up red flags all along,maybe I don't need him back,maybe this is for the best!! Thanks for all the responses!!
2006-11-22 00:43:26 · update #1
You will never regret any decision you make with your kids best interest in mind. If that is what you had to do for the kids, good for you. That is one of the hardest things to learn when it comes to raising children. Do what you need to do, not what you want to do.
2006-11-19 14:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by tim b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong for letting him go. Before breaking up with him, you should have talked to him about your concerns. If he is the wonderful guy you say he is, he will understand and work with you on a solution. Maybe he will offer to pay for a sitter, or maybe he can come over to your house and spend time with you and your kids. But try to remember, you and him need time alone away from his friends and your kids. If you cannot face him, write him another email and explain to him your concerns and that you don't want to break up after all, that you want to make your relationship with him work. I am sure he will want to come right over and talk to you about things.
2006-11-19 22:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by lotsoflions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooo! If that's all there is to it, then I don't think that's a good reason. It would have been best to talk with him about it first, express your concerns and see what he thinks.
Now he feels like it's his fault, when really, it's not his fault at all.
Maybe there are underlying things in your relationship though...is that the only reason? If he truly is wonderful, it's kind of silly to get rid of him because of something like that.
Unless, of course, you don't feel like you want to have a boyfriend right now. Sort out your feelings, and then if you feel like you made the wrong choice then hopefully he will understand.
2006-11-19 22:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by koala988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean yes and no. It depends on if you tried to talk to him about it first I mean you only dated for 3 months it all depneds on how much emotion was in the relationship in my onpinion if he cared enough to make it work he would put aside his childish things and spend more time with you. I am a single mom and my fiance meet me when my daughter was 10 months old and he excepted that and stopped doing childish things and acting like he was single and all that good stuff.
2006-11-19 22:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice to break up with him for whatever reason you choose. However, it seems like you are having doubts. And why did you do it by email. Has he called or written back? Why did you break up with him? Did you find it hard not to go out? Have you decided not to go out with people that don't have kids?Do you love him, and have you really thought this through?
2006-11-19 22:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by steffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,You need a man that wants to be with you and your children,not out partying with he,s friends,he is to imachure for you,look for a older man,they are always more mature and nuterian!Good luck,hollywood
2006-11-19 22:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, "what did he think"? Had he suggested that he had issues with your kids and limited social schedule? Did you two discuss this ever? Perhaps you have put words in his mouth or are you just looking for an excuse to end the relationship?
2006-11-19 22:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what? you broke up with a great guy because you couldn't go out with his friends? there are people called babysitters, you mom, any relatives could watch over them.. i don't really see what the problem was... if you mean you had no time for him because you have duties to your kids first then its a whole different storie. kids always come first.
2006-11-19 22:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you were afraid to have someone actually accept your situation and in the back of your mind you expect him to resent you for holding him down, and yes you were absolutely wrong.
2006-11-19 22:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by D R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still dont see the reason!
2006-11-19 22:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋