What is the best way to deal with alot of anger?

Question

I have been under stress lately and i cannot find a way out. Help me please

Answer 1

take martial arts like judo and karate and aikido.
you will learn to control yourself and your response to situations.
truly this is the key.
others recommend talk therapy, which might help,
but i think you also need to involve your body.
there's also something called bioenergetics that helps
release a lot of anger. you could try it. kind of expensive.

Answer 2

Allow yourself to feel it and realize that it is OK to feel. Often time emotional pain is simply another side of the emotional dice. It can flip easily to happiness. That die sits on a see-saw with intellect on the other side. As long as your intellect remains in control, the emotions will not govern your judgment. While you feel bad you can do mental exercises that may reduce the stress. If you keep imagining that your pain is a full bottle and you let it pour out, your brain will follow those instructions. Your brain is just an organ, it does not know reality from perception. It will equate that imaginary bottle with your pain source and try to reduce. Once you feel relieved then start trying to isolate where the pain came from. Have your mind like a time machine go back and figure out why something bothered you. You can change the present by fixing your past memory of something. Then after you fix the issue realize certain things: Stress is perception. If something stresses you it is because you perceive it is bad. Often times the first time we deal with something it is the worse. After that it is not so much a shock anymore. Perception is often skewed. Things are not as bad is they appear. Emotional pain can be greater than physical pain. Physical pain is just a bodily response to something wrong. Emotional pain is similar but since it involves the mind, that is the governing force for all of you. We cant always reduce the pain of emotion immediately but we can build better mental tools to deal with it. You are never alone. You always have more resources and people to help you than you know. If people wrong you, assess the damage and learn from what happened. Good Luck

Answer 3

Ah, you are not alone my friend! People and situations can drive you to sheer madness if you let them. Listen up. You really have to destress. Laughter is the best medicine...go out and destress..a good long walk with some great music on your MP3 by the water or a nice park will work wonders...get out of your head for a while. Beyond that you will need to change directions in your life. Whatever is causing this stress has to be defused. If it's a job, maybe you need to find another. If it's life in general, then find little outlets...I find the worst of my stress comes from family...not my kids or husband, but other family...I just avoid them...that is really the only solution...but you can't always do that. I was working with a bunch of people who drove me absolutely insane with their evil and meanness and games and all...I quit...walked right out...goodbye...they all regretted they pushed me to that...and spent a good year trying to get me back..but no way...it was the best thing I ever did for myself. You know life is a trade off...you can't always have everything...I need my sanity and to be available to my kids more than I need money or anything else at this point in my life...You have to find pick me ups in life...they were there...they are nothing monumental..but little things...baby steps...they will eventually get you out of where you are at. You should read this book called "The Purpose Driven Life" Even if you are not religious, listen to the message behind it...it will help....there is also this movie called "what the bleep are we here for" I think that is the title. www.whatthebleep.com...wierd but very interesting...will help you feel better some. Good luck.

Answer 4

For starters, it sounds like you need a therapist. However, unfortunately, a therapist cannot be there every minute of everyday. So in my experience, anger is a result of dwelling on something, which causes a person to often get hyper. When you cannot discuss it with a therapist, maybe try going for a run, or participating in some kind of solo exercise, until you cool off?

good luck

Answer 5

Try the vitamin L-theanine, it WILL help. An overabundance of anger is usually due to panic and anxiety about stuff you can't fix. The usual is also good to help it, herbal tea, breathing, stretching, exercise, soft music, experiement until you feel good.

Answer 6

A therapist will be a whole lot more helpful than the people on yahoo answers.

Remember everyone here is not trying to be helpful.

Answer 7

anger has been trained in you in some manner. You may not be able to break it. Just don't break the law. The mafia mothers knew how to make their boys angry killers.

Answer 8

Anger management classes and therapy...meditation and relaxation, primal scream therapy.

Answer 9

Sometimes I get so angry I want to eat gumballs instead of chew them. Just to let you know you got company.

Answer 10

try exercising when you are angry..it helps produce happy endorphins.